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writes: My partner thinks our sex life is dull because I won't let him cum on my face. He says he can't imagine his sex life without this and goes around all unhappy about it. I in turn find this a big turn off and feel offended by this act. He won't accept anything else as a compromise (not even blow jobs)because he reckons it's the visual 'thrill' of 'facials' that turns him on and not much else.We love each other madly and don't want to split up over this - he says he'd rather be unhappy with me than not at all. I don't see the point in doing that. Calling all men to respond to this please as I would like a male perspective on this one.
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reader, BlackHorizon  +, writes (28 July 2011):
My gf won't let me do it all the time which I can except that.
Here's some advice, maybe let him do it once in a blue moon, BUT surprise him with it and tell him to do it on your face. But you have to be strict about when he can do it. Give him a once in a blue moon chance, and he may be happy. It's just a suggestion and worth a try. It's up to you...
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2008): Had this same problem with my gf. I was bored with the sex and so we stopped doing it for a week. Then she caved in and let me climax on her face. I don't understand what the big deal is about some semen on your face. The female ejaculate, which I love rubbing my nose in, is made up of similar stuff. Just make sure you close your eyes cos it can sting. And wear hot pink lippy - he sounds a bit like me so I'm sure the porn star look will turn him on big time! Please don't complain how yucky it is afterwards either. Men like their women to be a little kinky and slutty sometimes. Tell him you love his cum and let him pick it up from your face with his penis and place it in your mouth. But just make sure he gives you damn good sex the next few times after you fullfill his fantasy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2006): ++We love each other madly and don't want to split up over this - he says he'd rather be unhappy with me than not at all. I don't see the point in doing that.++
I missed this point: Erm, I'm not totally happy with my gf either, but I rather be unhappy with her than not at all. The reason is because there are also other factors. You make it sound like sex is the biggest part of your relationship! Yes, sex is big (for me anyhow) - it comes second. What comes first? (I could make a pun out of that, but I'm lame, so I won't) Consideration, caring, character, history, chemical connection, etc, etc - emotions for that person, want to see her happy, want to be happy together, want to share things together. Yeah, sex to me with my gf isn't that great - it's better for her than it is for me, but it's a compromise... 8]
And like Willywombat said, "Dont do anyhhting you are uncomfortable with."
I also concur - that stuff stings your eyes!!! [sobs]
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (13 March 2006):
 I ahve said this b4 and i will say it again. Dont do anyhhting you are uncomfortable with. And anyway that stuff stings if it gets in your eyes!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2006): Now, although I said what I said, I forgot to dish out some compassion, lest more tomatoes and animal feces get thrown my way... [sigh] ...again. 8]
Sex and pleasure should work both ways. It's a given. Unless he's master and you're slave - then well, that's another type of relationship altogether.
As with some of the suggestions here by other Aunts (and uncles?), I suggest that you and him try different things to try to achieve a common goal. You hate his cum on your face, and he loves his cum on your face... Not supposed to be such a big dilemma, but well, as you can see throughout DearCupid, it's quite possible other negative things can ensue from this.
I really believe in compromise without detest and despair. Hopefully, everything works out for you two!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2006): Females can ejaculate too. Tell him that he should be on the receiving end of a facial. See what he thinks of that. Maybe that will satisfy him, but if it doesn't (if he still wants to do you), then tell him your answer is still no (my fear for you is that if you allow him to give you a facial, before too long he'll want to have his friends ejaculating in your face too).
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2006): I can say it's frustrating, and eventually makes the sex go down the drain, which will lead to other things, like surfing for porn and imagining it, etc, which will lead to more bad things, etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2006): Tell him to stop pressuring you - it's completely not cool.
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reader, Agony AUnt Hannah +, writes (8 March 2006):
 Have sex in the shower or bath for some excitement and let him cum all over your body. He'll be so excited that he wont care where he cums.
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reader, sexseahot +, writes (8 March 2006):
 He can't make you do something that you DO NOT want to do. He should beable to compromise with you. Instead of your face, how about your breast or stomach? Don't let him pressure you into something you don't feel comfortable doing. It's your body and hopefully he'll come to respect that.
Good Luck!
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