| A
age
30-35,
*
writes: So about a week ago me and my girlfriend skipped a day of school so we could spend the day together alone (I know this isn't a good idea but it's really hard for us to spend extended amounts of time together alone not in a sexual way but just to bond) and when we did the school called her mom to tell her she wasn't in school (we didn't know this would happen) and her mom found out and she got in trouble and she new that I skipped too and also she took her phone and read a message she had sent me that was pretty sexual (I had asked her what she would do if she was lying in bed with me right now and she said "I would give you a blow job and let you fuck my tits") and now her mom grounded her for 2 weeks and even after she is ungrounded she isn't allowed to see me for a while (I don't know how long) I know this is what we deserve for skipping but I don't know if I can go that long without seeing her or talking to her and I'm afraid it might hurt our relationship.Please help any advise on how to deal with this will help.
View related questions:
blow-job Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, ~Maureen  +, writes (6 February 2010):
That is wonderful to hear. Now act on it. Allow yourself to exhibit self-control and be her protector, not her ruination.
God Bless!
A
reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@Maureen Yes I would still do all this just to be with her. I love her more than i've ever loved anybody. There is no one else that I can talk to or relate with more than her.
...............................
A
female
reader, ~Maureen +, writes (31 January 2010):
I know you are young...and probably have no idea what I am referring too. I don't mean to allude to some kind of force on your part. What I mean about the whore comment is that she is not your wife. You have no real commitment. I believe you about your relationship and I understand you just want to enjoy her and have fun & you mean no harm. However, harm is happening to your girlfriend from the very nature of your relationship. She is in trouble with her parents, she is skipping class, she could become a mother and you a father quite in the near future, should you continue on this lustful path.
True love is sacrificial. That you give up your life for the one you love. The best thing for your girlfriend is for you both to exhibit self-control in matters of sexual experience.
The reasons you might want to consider changing the nature of your relationship is because when you break up, and you will, you will feel very embarrassed as the things that have passed between you.
After a parent finds out something so "icky" about what is occurring between the daughter and the boyfriend, NEVER again will they "like" you. This adds an enormous amount of pressure to a girl, even when they act like it's fine and they don't care what their parents say. Oh, we care.
So, what if your girlfriend cut you off completely from all sexual activity with her? Would you still be so inclined to go through all this with her?
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFirst off thanks for the advise from @girl from bristol and @strongfp, but @Maureen I am not treating her like a whore everything we have done has been mutual i've never done anything she didn't want to do and she's never done anything I didn't want to do, for example she wasn't fully comfortable with the idea of fingering so we waited until she was and i'm really glad we did because it made it even more special. So don't automatically think i'm treating her like a whore and making her do stuff just because we are doing stuff, not all guys are like what you are describing. And most of the things we have done have been her idea (not saying thats a bad thing)
...............................
A
female
reader, ~Maureen +, writes (30 January 2010):
Stop playing house! You are not treating your girlfriend as a special person...you are treating her like a whore and she is becoming one.
If you really cared about her, you wouldn't be doing things to hurt her like skipping school with her and using her body.
As a parent, I would never want my daughter to see you again because I'd be SOOOOO grossed out by the text message and frankly, fearful my daughter would be pregnant or a victim of a disease. Chances are that's what's gonna happen.
If you do care about your girlfriend, may I suggest you apologize to her for taking advantage of her body and then to the parents. Tell them you are highly embarrassed and realize that you are wrong to be engaging in that behavior. Tell them that you will longer be dating their daughter without a chaperone. Then follow through. Else, you will be breaking up. I can guarantee it.
Hope you get it all straightened out.
~Maureen
...............................
A
female
reader, girl from bristol  +, writes (30 January 2010):
hi i dont think you deserve to be stopped from seeing her and her mum should not have read the text she sent you where is the privacy and trust i think you just have to wait until she can get in touch with you again and do not skip anymore school so that you keep on her mums good side and this does not happen again
...............................
|
