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writes:I met a man recently who I really like-even though I havent known him long in fact no timne at all. Life is so short I think just let him know how I feel and if it frightens him off - so be it -means it wasnt meant to be. However his wife only died about just over 18 months ago and he says he cannot replace the love of his life which he had then lost. No one is asking him to replace her or his lost love but how long would it normally take for someone to start a proper life again understanding of course ewveryone is different.I know I am making him pressurised and upsetting him but I cant help my feelings so I think the best thing is for me to get out of his life completely rather than have a toe dipping in luke warm water-better for him?? Also would it be better for me knowing how I feel then wouldnt make it hard on him-is it better to cut my losses and go rather than wait in vain? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): Awww, theres more than one person like him just think like that. I'm not advertising myself, but there are other people out there.
Letters are good. You can write down all your emotions, saying the right stuff and have enough time to think about what your saying without looking stupid or under pressure.
Good Luck to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes thanks
I have written to him a nice letter and said I was sorry for giving him any pain and emotional stress but couldnt help the way I felt but it was better for HIM if i got out of his life compltely which I have said NOT becasue I dont like him its becasue I do and its better for HIM!
he is a lovely cheery fella and Ill so often think of him its a shame i didnt know him very long-no time at all- but for some reason I liked him very very much one cannot help it can they-its a compliment to him., However for HIS sake Ive left him now-shame
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): Thanks for that Yes I have written to him and told him I will get out of his life NOT becasue I dont like him becasue I do and apologised for giving him any grief.
I suspect I have upset him and this is NOT what I wanted to do on the contrary so how painful for ME it is better for HIM
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): Someone very close to me, husbands died 13 years ago. For the first two years she didn't go out with anyone, socially. She hasn't remarried, and I don't think she plans to. I think the pain of losing him was a lot. It was a long and painful death which lots of suffering from both parties.
Your going to have to be very patient if your going to persue him. It probably is upsetting him a bit, however I know its hard to control your feelings. Its a very awkward situation. I'd cut your losses and find someone that is going to make you happy now and not inflicted by emotional pain.
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