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writes:A couple of months ago, I met a guy. We met up with each other every day for a week.I cant really say that we dated, as we didn't actually say that we were dating. I paid for him some of the time when we went out because he didn't have much money. He did pay for me a couple of times though too. We planned to go out for a meal together one night, and he said he was going to pay for it. I spoke to him the night before we were supposed to go out, and he told me that he would call me the next morning to make arrangements for that night. However, I didn't hear from him at all. I tried to call him a few times, but he didn't answer. I didn't hear from him again until a week later. He sent me a message asking me to call him. He also tried to call me a few times. He also sent other texts, asking me why I wasn't talking to him and asking me if I hated him. I didn't respond to any of his texts because I was annoyed that he had let me down and he took so long to get in touch with me again. I bumped into him yesterday. He told me that he had kept trying to contact me to explain what had happened.He said his relative had an accident and he had to go to see her. I'm not sure if I believe that or not, and even if it is true, he still should have told me at the time. I wanted to tell him that he should have text me at the time, but I didn't say that to him. He asked me if I have a boyfriend and I said I haven't. He said "if you want to call me sometime then call me, or don't if you don't want to ". I thought he might have asked me to go for a drink or something with him, as we were around town when we bumped in to each other. He did say he didn't have much money though, and he said he was going to another town nearby to see a friend. Do you think he is still interested, or do you think he was just being polite to me or trying to get rid of me ? I had an appointment. I was walking in to the building and he was walking out at the same time .He waited for me until I had finished my appointment so that he could talk to me. Do you think he waited for me because he is still interested ?.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2014): We are both unemployed. However, he told me he was getting paid on the day that he was supposed to take me for a meal, so the issue wasn't that he had no money.
Whatever the reason was, I still think he should have contacted me on the day. A week was certainly too long to get in contact with me again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2014): I think he's very interested; but made a date just to place keep you on hold.
I think he didn't have the money. Nor did he have the nerve to cancel. If you had to pay a few times for a man you hardly know, I suspect that he may be hard on his luck.
Not that it should matter; but he doesn't have the nerve to come clean about it. That says he's hiding the fact that he's having financial issues, or he's unemployed. Yet he still wants to date. He didn't have the manners to cancel the date, or notify you of the "so-called emergency." I don't like the way any of this smells. in such a short span of time, it's far too complicated.
I think you need to move on. Let this one slide.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (19 June 2014):
 Yes, I think he waited because he is still interested, however...
If he is in your age group he KNOWS or SHOULD know that sending a quick text to cancel is the right thing to do. You may not have been "dating" at the time but you PLANNED to go out to dinner and he just dropped off the planet.
Maybe a family member got hurt.. I think he just didn't have the money and didn't want to disappoint you.
Then there is the issue of him FINALLY getting around to calling/texting (when it was convenient for him) **He also sent other texts, asking me why I wasn't talking to him and asking me if I hated him. ** That just reeks of insecurity, immaturity and desperation.
I would honestly, let this one go, and find someone more reliable.
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