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female
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30-35,
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writes:I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year, have known him for several, but we live in different countries. When we first started dating we would talk so often, cam often, etc.Now it's like the relationship has lost it's spark. I LOVE him, and he tells me he loves me too, but II just seem more serious and more enthusiastic about it than he does. He's recently moved in with his parents in between finding a new apartment and he says he can't talk much because he doesn't get privacy... I don't get why he is so bashful about it (his parent's don't even know about me).I love him and, not to sound self-centered, but I wish he would give me as much attention as I give him. I text him just to let him know I'm thinking about him, no matter how busy I am. The other day he didn't even respond until the next day (although he apologized).We're seeing each other again in a couple of months... if I don't feel the same affection from him that I did before I will have to cut off my heart strings to him, suffer in pain because I love him, but I just am starting to think it's just not going to work out. A part of me just wants to end it now and "wean" myself off of him but I want to give him a chance. I'm always thinking about him, even after being together for almost 2 years. It's like I've constantly been stuck in the honey moon phase and he's over it...Thoughts? Advice?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (23 February 2015):
 if you are still not known to his family and friends after nearly 2 years of being together then he is not taking your relationship seriously.
what's the plan to end the distance?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (22 February 2015):
 You have been dating a year, but he hasn't told his parents? Why not?
A guy who is in love (or a girl) would WANT to scream it from the rooftops. So WHY is he hiding you?
Do you two have any plans on living with each other or at least in the same country? Could also be that the "novelty" has worn off for him, because what he wants is a relationship with someone who is THERE. That is always one of the biggest pitfalls with an LDR, the distance.
If you feel like YOU are doing ALL the work, then pull back a little. Give him the chance to MISS you and WANT to talk to you.
And I would ASK him why his family doesn't know about you. I think that is a pretty big deal.
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