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female
age
51-59,
*rissypro89
writes:There was once a time that I could really smile and feel this beautiful content feeling for my husband. Look at our pictures and smile. Back in 2002 when him and I got back together after a 1 1/2 separation he promised me that he will never think or look at another women again. We were both at fault back then but forgave each other. There was no one else involved not his ex wife or kids or no one. Our relationship was beautiful. I felt secure and content. Then years later about 2 years now the ex wife and kids (23 and 21) are in contact with him. They didn't want to bother before with him cause they resented him for leaving their mom when they were young. People divorce, people move on the ex wife never remarried. Now I believe my husband (he doesnt go to see them) they live 5 hours away but he calls and speaks to them and since she isn't remarried they speak when his kids are not there. They speak sometimes for 1 hour, sometimes he will call in the afternoon then at night. I am in and out during the day and get home from work at 10pm or 11pm and I see that he had just called about a 1/2 hour before I get in. He knows I do not like that he speaks to his ex and he says you should be glad we are friends because she could take us to court for back child support. He gave her some money from a settlement like $50,000.. My dad never gave my mom any child supprt when he left in 1982 and my husband gave her 50,000 and gives his kids money when they need now. I feel sometimes there is an emotional affair there. He says that I should have more trust in him but it is that feeling that I once had that is gone. I cant smile at our pictures. I feel not threatened but discouraged. I feel that she brings out his past when speaking to him and he knows her father and she was best friends with his cousin that past away. So there is connection there. He doesnt speak to my sister cause they live in another state only hi bye how are you when she calls . I dont have a big family. We have no kids so I feel that I dont fulfill him because he calls them often. Last week he called there 7 times and he told me they are all fighting with each other and having problems. I dont know what to make of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2009): Well, first I would like to say you are a good woman to allow that situation to go on but you know that your husband and his Ex will always have a bond. And maybe he is regreting now that she is his Ex and that would be a question that I would bring up to him. Then my question to you is what job keeps you out that late? And if you feel you aren't happy with your husband but, want to stay with him find something that the 2 of you could do together. And I wish the 2 of you good luck.
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