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writes: OK...Well I'm a 14 year old 9th grader in High School. I met this really cute 16 year old who's an 11th grader. Well I was sooooo naive and young in love. I went to his house one night and it led to something more. I regret it so much because I'm just too young for that kind of contact. Anyways, I don't wanna feel like I'm alone in this. Can someone please help me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2006): WELL YOUR PROBABLY JUST GROWING UP. IT'S NATTURAL TO FEEL THAT WAY. I'VE BEEN THROUGH IT JUST LIKE YOU AS WIMON I SAY SO DONT WORRY ABOUT IT
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2006): Hi there!First things first... I promise you sweety, that you are not on your own. I was 13 when I lost my virginity, and I regret it a little, as I wanted to lose my virginity to the one that I was going to spend the rest of my life with. Everyone makes mistakes, its just human! And we can learn from our mistakes! When I was 14, I started to rebel and go the wrong way due to the change in people that I would hang around with. Every friday and saturday night, I would stay at a friends house (who was 18) and I used to drink horrible amounts of alcohol with my friends and I would also smoke cannabis. One night, one of my "friends" spiked my drink with a drug and slept with me. That night, me and one of my best friends ended up pregnant. From that moment, I turned my life around. I quit smoking, I quit drugs and I now only have the occasional drink. I now feel much healthier physically and I feel great. This was my mistake in my life, and I learnt from it! You can also learn from this situation. Dont let anyone pressure you into sex, only do it when you know you are 100% ready. Remember to practise safe sex every time! Good luck sweety! Hugs! A xx
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reader, lori +, writes (1 February 2006):
well to start with this guy has committed an offence it is against the law to have sex with a minor as you are under 16yrs i only hope you used some sort of protection its not just about getting pregnant as my own daughter did at 15 its about STD'S one thing i will say is never get yourself into a situation you can't get out of if you say no to a boy then it means no don't ruin your life wait till you meet someone you really care about then have sex and also wait till your alot older you need to learn about your innerself and then making love is the most wonderful thing in the world not just a roll on the bed and its over theres more to it so don't be fazed you made one mistake now its time to move on these things happen you might want to get checked out by the docter you never know how many girls he slept with before and how many guys they have slept with remember everytime you sleep with someone you are sleeping with eveyone they slept with too you cant tell who has an STD just by looking at them and clymidia is on the up so for peace of mind go and see the docter in confidence
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reader, PornStarKitty +, writes (1 February 2006):
 hiya, dont worry, i did the same thing when i was your age! i have regretted it ever since! but im impressed that you have realised what you have done and not carried on like i did! i dont mean to sound rude but you are too young to have sex! i was ur age once had sex and got pregnant! and it affected me bigstyle! even thought u are really careful you can never predict if u might get pregnant! ur very sensible!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2006): No you're not alone in this! When I was 13 I lost my virginity to a 17 year old and yes I regret it so much because I look at myself now and I wouldn't want my daughter to make the same mistake as me. You can't change the past but at least you know what you did wrong and won't make the sam mistake again. Good Luck!
-love always...Jennie
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reader, Clarey  +, writes (31 January 2006):
 I think you are an very sensible and smart person. You can now see that although you are physically ready, you are not emotionally prepared for intimate contact. You have seen very quickly that you need to be older and I expect in a stable relationship. Don't be ashamed because what is happening to you is a natural process and it can be very hard to control. Your body is telling you to procreate and that is a very powerful, wonderful thing. But, your brain is saying.... NO hang on! Rightly. Well done, it won't happen again, forgive yourself and don't worry.
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reader, lifereal +, writes (31 January 2006):
 dear Anonymous,I am glad yo feel the way you do about the situation.You have got two things right,you really were naive and you are really too young for that kind of thing.it's also true that you are not alone but I hope that's not to make you feel better and complacent about what you did,notice I don't say what happened but what you did.Acknowledging our part in a mistake is a very important step if we are to do better next time.age 14 is part of what I call girl friend time it's time to make real and good girlfriends to spend time with them and to discover more about yourself,explore your skills and talents expand your view on life and what it's all about, good relationships with people of the same sex help us to have good and meaningful relationships with people of the opposite sex when it's the proper time and when it's for the proper reasons,by the way any healthy meaningful relationship does not have such contact as you speak of at such un early stage.It's good that you have realised your mistake,I didn't want to make this too long but if you want more tips on how to avoid a similar situation next time,please write again
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