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writes:im a 17 yr old guy,me and this girl have been together for a year and a half,she went to japan with a couple people from her shcool and 2 teachers,before she went to japan she grabbed me by the hands and said that she wanted to celebrate our 2 years that we met but we couldnt because she would be in japan,the last 3 nights before they came back to australia they stayed at a hotel,i went to japan to surprise her to make her happy,make her feel loved,the teachers wouldnt let me speak to her..I never even got to say a word to her over there except email,she was really happy that i went there,when they were leaving the hotel to go to the airport to go back home i was sitting at the front of the hotel,they walked past with their bags and i blew her a kiss,she smiled..Anyway the teachers rang her parents coz i was there and when she got back i rang her mum and she told me that i went too far,that it was stalking and that we are not to see or speak to each other for a few months and then we will see what happens,that is basically what she said 2 me,her mum told me that Erika* (my girl) would send me a msg later on to explain everything,i said ok..I got the msg 2 hours later and the msg that was sent was written by erika but i know her mum would have sat next to her and told her what to write..i dont know what to do,i havent spoken to her in a week and she wont msg me,she is too loyal lol..SGe is staring yr 12 now,her mum doesnt really like me as well before this happened and her dad told me to stay away from her,do not go near or contact her,he said if i do he will ring the police..i think that they are taking this too far and it is really slack on us,we r both in love and it would be killing her for her parents to do this..i cant sleep,i cant go out,all i do is think about her and think y wont she msg me without her mum knowing..PLz help me,im so stuck right now.*names have been changed
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (17 October 2007):
 It seems to me that this girl is NOT 12 years old, but that she is starting her twelfth year at school. I did a little search in Google and found that "Year 12" is the final high school year there. So she must be something like 17-18.
Just for the sake of clarity: if she were 12, then you would be a stalker.
But, since she is not, I find that her parents overreacted. That is, they overreacted from our point of view. Their behavior seems a little too strong for a high-school boyfriend. Maybe this is normal in Japan, but, I wouldn't know. Sometimes cultural differences are very hard to overcome. For example, I understand that red is the color of mourning in Japan. Imagine what you would think if a Japanese showed up at a burial dressing in red.
All the same, man, I believe these people would actually call the Police. So, this is it for you and her. It's unfair, yes, but that's how it is.
Peoriaman suggests writing a letter. I think this is a good idea. Explain yourself, apologize, and leave. Bear this in mind: LEAVE. This is over.
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (17 October 2007):
How old is this girl? Is there more to the story that you're not telling? What was your contact with her parents for the year and a half you went with her?
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reader, brooke5426  +, writes (17 October 2007):
 wow. if everything is as straight forward as you say, her parents have completely overreacted. providing there is nothing else thats happened beforehand to make them think you should stay away from her (im not saying there is but there are two sides to every story) then they are blowing it all out of proportion. i think it was sweet what you did. maybe not the best of ideas since she was on a school trip and it wasnt like she was on vacation but your intentions were lovely.
i think the teachers had a point in not letting you see her though. i mean they were responsible for her and by you turning up it kind of made them responsible for you too and you know all kinds of insurance/parental permission issues come into play then.
i think you should explain to her parents that you only went there because she said she wanted to celebrate your anniversary together. they are probably just completely overwhelmed that someone so young would go to the effort to travel all that way.
try talking to them and explain that you love her and were just trying to make her happy.
brooke
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