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age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid,I am a 25 years old female, and I have been single all my life. Not that boys werent interested in me, it was more of me being choosy about them. Now it is time for me to get married, and I have registered my profile on many matrimonial sites. Just a month back, I found one boy suitable for me, and I expressed interest in him. He immediately accepted the interest, and then I mailed him. His parents contacted mine, they spoke and then the boy spoke to me...for around 1/2 n hr. It was a nice casual talk. Then he asked me for my number and I messaged it to him for which he replied, that he will definitely get in touch with me. I was all excited that finally I found the one!Next day, his mother contacted my mother and again spoke casually, and finally said, the kids must know one another better. Its all upto them now.I awaited his call, and there was just no sign of it! Its been a month now. So my questions are:1. Was there something wrong on my part? Like a normal girl, I was just waiting for the boy to approach me first. Should I have done something, like given him a call; but that would look very desperate on my part!2. What should I do next? Forget about him? And if I do that, what if he calls one day. How should I react?Please help me take his case off my mind!Thanks!!!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (21 February 2010):
 I think you should call him or ask your parents to call her parents to inquire about his silence.
It is not considered desperate because you cannot be kept hanging in the dark.
Something could have happened to him . At least , you should know what is happening .
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you, for giving me a male perspective of the issue.
However, I still feel it was so wrong on the guy`s part to remain silent for a month. He could have had the courtesy to call/mail/message and say something!, like I am not in a mood for marriage...or...I am too busy...or...any thing for that matter! Not that I care, but since the parents were involved in this, atleast for their sake!
Anyways, thanks a lot once again! :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2010): According to your view of the story there is nothing wrong on your side. However, you should forget about this guy and move on. A whole month of silence means he is not serious about it. Whenever you feel interested again in a guy show him only some of your interest. Do not mention you wish to marry directly. Show him that you want to know him first. Guys love to play the chaser's role. We like to choose and chase, not to feel chosen and chased. This is the truth about most of us.
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