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writes:I did a very bad thing: my boyfriend and I just moved in together and while he was at work, I went through some of his old things. I know I shouldn't have done this, but what I found is really disturbing me! I found a lot of porn and that doesn't bother me at all because I've always known my honey to be very sexual and I love that about him. Anyhow, what bothers me is the bag of his ex girlfriend's clothing, which also contained sexual toys. I also found a magazine ad for blow-up dolls from like three years ago (before we were together). And what bothers me the most is the picture of some guys penis! I don't really understand why he would have these things... I find it really weird. Why would he have a bag of his ex's clothing? Lol, why would he have a picture of some guys penis? And why a blow-up doll?? Oh, and lets not forget the box of candy bra and panties! (Never opened). I feel really bad for going through his stuff and it didn't start off that way, but now I think he may have some problems or something ... I dunno. I guess I'm a little worried about him now. I'm not concernrd that he's cheating on me because its obvious the things I found are old. Plus, I really do trust him ... he's very good to me and treats me like a princess. I'm more concerned about his well being at this point. Any advice or suggestions? :) thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2007): Hiya,
I dont think its bad that you went through his old things.
I mean, every woman has done some snooping into her boyfriends stuff at some point! so dont worry about it.
After all your living together now so theres no secrets anymore.
I think you could have stumbled on some old girlfriend stuff. Some of it may have even been given to him as a joke from his mates!! you know what blokes are like.
So dont worry about it I'm sure its just a load of random stuff. And if your really concerned why not tell him that you found this box of stuff and make a joke of it!.
Good luck for the future.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (9 July 2007):
 Well, it's so good to know we helped you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2007): Thanks for answers that did calm my nreves. I'm still weirded out about the blow up doll, lol. I mean, that's the sort of thing they joke about on tv! And what concerns me the most is the picture of the penis that I found mixed in with his collection of porn. What's up with that?! Lol, my man acts anything but gay or bi!!! And I think I know what his penis looks like, we've been sexual for almost five years. Its not his penis! Maybe I should just accept my man is highly sexual and just be thankful for an awesome sex life and a wonderful man who doesn't cheat on me? Sigh ...
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2007): Relax they could belong to ex for all you know.If you're really concerned say "hey i stumbled on a bunch of this stuff, does it all belong to your ex"you'll know by his reaction about the stuff.Your concerned about his well being? why would any of this stuff be considered damagin to his well being. A lot of normal people use that stuff.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (9 July 2007):
I guess that the porn and the doll can be explained in the same way, and maybe this should not be a reason for concern.About the rest, maybe it's things his former girl left and he just forgot to get rid of them, or couldn't make use of, like the candy bra. I wouldn't worry about this.
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