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writes: hi there! i dont know what to do!! i went into my bf's phone and read his texts which i know i shouldnt have done but his phone has been going off at all times of the day and night and i was interested to know who had been txting him all the time. i read a text from a number he hadnt saved in his phone and it said "hi there how have you been? xx" so i read the texts he had sent bk and then i read another text from this number and it said " its emz, i hav 2 phones now" i asked my bf if he knew a emma and he said no. but he had a few texts from this girl telling him she wanted a hug and that a hug from him would be good! im pretty worried about this as i know he doesnt have any friends called emz or emma or emily. what else im worried is he got these texts i read at work but everytime i text him when hes at work he doesnt text back and when i asj him he tells me that he doesnt get a signal at work! if that was the case how did he manage to recieve these texts and reply to them ! i dont know what to do or say to him!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2013): Hello there! If if quacks and walks like a duck, then it probably is. What I mean is that you probably know the answer to your own question. When your heart is filled with love for someone things seem to get a bit cloudy. The next thing you know, you'll be blaming yourself for a third party in your relationship.Listen, I have been dating a man for most of seven years. He has women on facebook he has posted up. He has a chat name that makes him sound like he's much younger than he is. But on the surface, hes an older man who hasn't a good self image of himself and relates only or most women. He doesn't have relationships with guys for the exception of one.He lives his life through mine because he doesn't have one and we were to get married at one time, but I'm glad we did not.Why am I with him? He's the most reliable person that I know who will be able to take charge if something unexpected happens to me right now. I live alone and have no family and so men prey on stuff like that too.You also heard me use the words "right now" because I am most definitely open to start a real relationship that is a healthy one. You see, if a man loves and wants you, he will do what it takes to make your relationship work, and that's without the drama of ex girlfriends, online chatting, texting other females and the list just goes on. Tell you what to do right now.. just DO YOU! You know why? Because love is easy baby.. it's real slow and easy and it doesn't have third parties involved and pandora's boxes. It's just that simple.Now once you DO YOU, you will most likely attract someone who loves and wants you and only you for what and who you are. You got it?I hope this helps because as soon as I can, I'm dumping this freak-azoid. I know there's someone out there looking for me, and I just haven't shown up yet! (lol)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2008): This is crazy! I just went through my boyfriends phone and found out some stuff that I didnt want to see! I can understand what your situation is! I asked for it for being nosey but you would think if thats your boyfriend there should be nothing to HIDE RIGHT?! Well as far as my advice to you, all I can say is Sit him down and let him know that you where in his text messages, you dont like what you read, why cant he just keep it real with you if he expects the relationship to work out?! Honesty is the key to a better relationship! If its hurting you like it hurt me some of the things you may have to do is let him go! Try and work it out and not give up on him because maybe its just a friend! Or really look at the situation of the relationship! Does he do the things he used to do when you first started dating? Is he secretive all the time? Is he afraid to answer his phone in front of you? You have to question yourself and if all the answers are YES! Its time for a change! Many blessings to you and I hope you get through it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2008): Im in a similar situation. My bf got a call from his ex about two months ago when i was in the room, but he didnt tell me it was her. He just told her that i was over and could he call her back. About a week later he admitted it was his ex, who had cheated on him with his friend, and who he hadnt spoken to since. Later on I was talking to him on the phone and he mentioned he was going to go have pizza with someone nearby, i asked who with? And he said "noone just an old friend", so i knew he was lying to me. He called me back about three minutes later and admitted he was going to dinner with her to resolve some issues. Anyway just yesterday i went through his phone and found text messages to and from her, one said "are you coming over tonight?" I confronted him straight away! He assured me he loves me and there is nothing going on. I explained that when he doesn't tell me about it, and i find out, it makes me feel like he's keeping it a secret, and then i wonder WHY he's keeping it a secret. I told him I want to know about any contact he has with his ex from now on, and i want to know what he feels and thinks about the situation. I would recommend confronting your boyfriend, explaining how you feel and if he doesnt give you a reasonable reason then dump him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2007): it's so hard to say what i think, because i'm going through the same thing.
my partner works away for 10 days at a time and when he was out i went through his phone to find really dirty messages from some female named chanae and dirty messages back to her.
he's yet away at work again and not replying to my messages or answering my calls.
i'm stuck here at home pregnant and with a toddler while he's prob with someone else. i think we are best of without men like this because even talking to someone else other then your partner in an itimate way is considered cheting
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2007): hi my boyfriends has the same at the moment like u i went down his phone and msn and now he acting funny towards me so i dont no what to do ,dont dump him like they all say hang in there and see what happens as i am if he cheating he will slip up there all do .x
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reader, kayjay +, writes (26 September 2006):
 even if ur bf is not cheating he is thinking about it. he shouldnt be thinking about giving other girls hugs. id ring the number and ask who it was. if she is seeing him she will probably tell u.
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reader, Ivanna22 +, writes (23 September 2006):
 Listen hunn, he's sounds like a player. If I were you I would just hang in there for a little while so I could be 100% sure that he's lying b4 I dump him. In my opinion, he is. Go to the bottom of this. You'd better find out earlier cuz later on you won't be hurt just because he's texting another girl but because he's cheating on you. The earlier, the better. If I were you I would just look for somebody else. I know it hurts to break up with someone you really like, but I don't think you should be with somone who lies to you. If he lies to you, then he doesn't love you, and you shouldn't be with somebody who doesn't love you and respect you as much as you love and respect him!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2006): If this guy is sneaking around like this he probably isnt worth your time. But just in case, you should really sit him down and tell him how you feel. This means admitting to snooping on his phone. honesty is always the best way to handle things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2006): It sounds to me like this guy now cares more for this emma than he does for you.
He is lying to you, deceiving to you and devoting his romantic feelings to her.
How about you get his phone and say "care to explain these" and then read them out to him.
Then dump him.
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reader, Toria +, writes (22 September 2006):
 Well I think you had better start with admitting going through his phone and seeing if he has got anything to tell you, if not you need to be blunt and out right ask him.
Yes you was wrong to go through his phone and on most times when we do this we find something we really didn't want to see but it's done now and if you don't do or say anything about this it will eat away at you.
You was wrong but he can't say anything as he has not only been texting another girl but been lying to you about not being able to get a signal at work.
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