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writes:First, I've posted a couple questions on here already about dating friends... And thanks so much for the advice! It really did help.So: I went on a date with one of my best friends a few weeks ago... It was awkward and we didn't really "click." I said I needed to think about things, and he said that I needed to know that he'd "never felt this way" about anyone before... I didn't know what to say when he said that to me... I was honest with him though.Said I thought we didn't click and that the whole thing was too much and too fast for me. -- I really don't understand how *anyone* could ever feel that way about me. It's been about a couple weeks now since we last talked... And I miss him. I think about him all the time. I feel like I lost a best friend and I'm not sure what to do... What should I do?I can't tell him this... It'd be like I was "playing games" with him... Wouldn't it? I kind of feel hopeless.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2013): If you told him you miss him, but have no certainty that you want to be with him in a romantic way then yes, it would be like you're just playing with his emotions.
I also don't think its wise to go on a date with someone you class as your best mate, clearly you two got along better as mates, but now things have become complicated, it could be difficult to go back to the way things were before.
I think you should leave it a while before contacting him, give both your own, and his emotions time to settle and then contact him in a "mates" way.
I don't really know how to go about these situations as I've never dated a best mate before (since all mine have been male lol), but I'm guessing you'd still like to maintain a friendship with him if nothing else.
Good luck.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (10 January 2013):
If you can't tell him then there's nothing we can tell you,.
All you have to say is that you two make great friends and you miss hanging out with him.
He's probably just embarrassed and needs a little talk. If he asks you can always say that you were afraid that it might not work out if you two dated, so you thought it best to not do so to avoid losing a friend.
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