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writes:i split up with my husband 3 years ago greg and we tried several times to get back together without success.I met someone last year and i became pregnant i left this person chris 3 months into my pregnancy we had an argument that got out of hand. my x husband greg came to my rescue and i got back with him he is now bringing up my baby as his own. i recently bumped into my x partner who i split up with and realised i made a terrible mistake i want the biological father back. i cry all the time my heart aches i feel like I've made my bed and have to lie in it. i cant hurt my husband and leave him again but this is tearing me apart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2007): I can really understand how you feel. I went through something very similar. I chose to walk away from both of them and brought the child up by myself. I know it is a tough decision but i don't think you will ever be happy with either of them. You husband came back and took this child on as his own, but i think deep down you were very vunerable and not really thinking straight. Rather than be on your own you too the easy route. You will be hurting him more if you stay with him and don't really want to be there, yet the child's biological father isn't the right person for you either. Sorry, to say this but personally i wouldn't want to be with either of them. Have a chat with your now husband and tell him exactly how you feel. Don't say that you would rather be with the biological father, but let him down gently and say that you need some time, just you and the child to sort yourself out. I think you would benefit from spending some time, men free. Get your head together and then decide. But we are all different.
Take care and i wish you well.
xx (keep in touch)
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