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writes:Ever have that HORRIBLE feeling of not being invited to a party?? Well, happened to me this week. AS we speak, there's a sweet16 party going on and my friends are all there. Of course, everyone but me.Uhm, I'm really good friends with these girls, let's call them Cat and Beth, they are friends with let's call her Anna. But I AM NOT friends with ANNA, even though I'm friends with Cat and Beth. Does that make sense? I've hung out with this Anna girl, even if we like, dont talk.I find it EXTREMELY offensive that this Anna didn't invite me to her party. What should I do? I'm super angry. Here at our school, we never have parties and the stupid ONLY one we have; I'm not invited to. GAY GAY GAY !!!!!Should I hold a grudge on her or what? I already hate her so much! :{ Reply to this Question
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reader, bwee123 +, writes (4 September 2010):
 SERIOUSLY story of my life. Except this happens with friends that I do consider close! I think that if this Anna girl wants to invite everyone but you do the same. She'll learn her lesson when yours is 10 times better than hers. That's what I did and now no one even likes hanging out with my version of Anna.
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reader, deadliving  +, writes (5 July 2008):
yeh true. if ur not friends with her, she shudn't have to invite u. i mean, would u invite her? think from her perspective. if u would, then u have other friends right. they must have other friends too that u might have seen. do they invite u to their b'days?
I still know what u mean. today there was a party and i wasn't invited. supposedly a good friend of mine's birthday, everyone got an invite but me, but who cares. just move on. forget about it. there will be tons of parties for u to go to in the future and true, just forgive anna. holding a grudge is pointless. invite her over to ur next one, as laura said, get to know her better. talk to her for christs sake.
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reader, iamheretohelp +, writes (24 March 2008):
iamheretohelp is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks.
And im sorry i used the word "gay" to express my feelings.
It just comes out and it is used nowadays as a sort of replacement for a curse... idk....
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2008): Hi well that just happend t me to and I really don't like i't eather. But I am really good friends with the person who made the party an she din't invite me. now I reall feel like a real loner. now when were going to go back to school everyone is going to be talking about it but who again?? MEEEEE... I agree with you that this Anna should still have invited you because meybe your relationship is going to be better.
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reader, hello1 +, writes (29 February 2008):
 I don't like the way you use the word, gay. Gay means a gay man, not a pissed off word because you haven't been invited somewhere.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (29 February 2008):
 In life, there are ups and downs.
We need to love our neighbor like ourself and do not do unto others if you do not want others to do unto you.
In life, we should make friends and not enemies.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2008): Dear Angry
I know what your going through it's happened to me before too. I'm 13 almost 14 and it is horrible. you may think me a total geek for saying this but um what I did was have a party and invite her. yes I know what you are thinking, (I could never do this in a million years)But honestly it worked wonderfully for me. I made her my special guest. I treated her kind and gave her the best of everything. She looked so uncomfortable and nerves for the entire party. She was so embarrassed and ashamed about what she had done. She told me this latter. Her dad was going to pick her up a 11. But she went home at 9! She just walked back home. She only was about a 10 min walk away. the next day was Sunday. She came over to my house sometime early in the morning. She left a note and flowers at my door! Now she is one of my best friends. People need to forgive each other and not hold grudges. You can make some really good friends. Friendship is all about trust and forgiveness. I mean hey we all make mistakes. and sometimes we even do things purposefully to hurt others but to make a friend you need to forgive and forget.
Someone who cares.
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reader, Passthrough +, writes (29 February 2008):
 If you're not friends with her, you should have had YOUR friends ask her if you could come.
Not your party, not your friend throwing it!
Also, relax a bit :D You can always throw a party, and ask your friends to invite Anna... Make great friends that way.
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