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writes:A few months ago, I asked out someone who I really really liked and he said no. Seeing him around now makes me feel so horrible and unattractive. I like someone else now and want to ask for his number but I worry about that he will say no and I will feel even worse about being told no both times. What should I do if he says no? How can I stop myself from feeling bad about rejection. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2008): Well, for one get used to it rejection is a part of life. I think maybe instead of asking for the guys phone number and asking him out, let him do the asking instead. Guys really do like the chase even in this day and age and they usually have no problems going after what they want. It could be that you are either picking guys that have shown no interest in you, or you are coming off as desperate or too agressive or both.
If a guy seems shy, acts like he likes you, but hasn't made a move, then you could ask him to lunch, or a coffee, but that is as far as I would take the pursuer role....I have never had a boyfriend that I asked out first...have you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2008): Oh dont worry so much! Its ok that you got turned down, we all do at some stage. But it doesnt mean that you are unattractive, it simply means that one guy didn't fancy you!There's loads more out there and you have nothing to worry about, I bet tons of guys like you.How about you try find out through friends if this new guy likes you?
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