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male
age
30-35,
*rhit1007
writes:Well, my ex girlfriend and I have been... I don't know what to call it. She and I have been broken up for over a year now and she's got a boyfriend now. I stopped all contact with her after she got her boyfriend. All was well, I got over her. She eventually added me on facebook again. She contacted me about a month ago and we met up for lunch. A week later, we saw each other at the same club and danced and ended up kissing goodnight.We texted and we were flirty with each other. I was with her at a bar one weekend, and I asked if we could talk outside. I basically told her this needed to stop since she's got a boyfriend and I went home. We met up for lunch a week ago, on Tuesday. And she said that she had just "let her guard down" and she would stop with the flirty texts and all of this other stuff that's been going on.At my school... last week was basically an excuse to party and drink all week. On thursday, I had been drinking since just after class and went to that same club that first started everything. My only problem was... I don't remember a thing from Thursday night. My roommate told me that my ex and I were dancing and making out. I don't know how much she had to drink on Thursday night either. My roommate's girlfriend said that she asked my ex if she liked me and she said yes... my roommate's girlfriend said that she asked me after we all got home and his gf said that I said yes.I was over her for a long time, until she got back in my life as a "friend." I really don't want to be played, and I do want this to stop. Does she? Is she over me even though she's got a boyfriend? Do I break all contact again?
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reader, chocoholicforever +, writes (20 April 2011):
Yes you should probably break all contact again because you're too weak to control your own behavior when you're with her. it's inappropriate to flirt and make out with her because she supposedly has a boyfriend. You need to have more self-restraint and if you can't (or won't), then break off all contact with her again or you could find yourself in a love triangle or some other kind of tumultuous and agonizing situation which will be harder to resolve than what you're going through right now.
If you decide that you actually do want to proceed with her, then ask her if she will break up with her boyfriend and get with you. if she says no, then you're probably better off cutting off contact with her again so as to avoid getting into a very messy situation.
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