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writes: I have no idea where to post this question, but I seriously need to let this out and get some advice. Okay here it goes... Well when ever someone loses something and they're looking for it, I immediately get nervous. I start to shake, my heart races my head shakes...I lose control of my body and I can't think. I feel like they think I stole it and when I start to have this anxiety attack thing it makes me look like I stole something and I know that, which makes me even more nervous and that makes me look more guilty. I don't understand. I would never ever steal anything, I know I would never steal anything, so I don't understand why this happens to me. And I will get this feeling over someone losing anything, it can be important, like a computer goes missing or it can be small, like a pencil. Immediately when they say where's my whatever, I start to shake, I can't make eye contact. I look guilty, but I'm not. My parents say when I was younger a teacher accused me of stealing coins off of his desk and I went home crying and I guess I was really extremely upset. I don't remember this whatsoever. Could that be why this happens to me? Is there anyway to make it stop, it is seriously ruining my life. I'm a good person and I don't want to look guilty anymore. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2012): I am planning to go see a doctor.. but the issue right now is that this girl lost something a while ago and immediately I got nervous when she was talking about it, I could tell she was kind of looking at me weird. Now we have to be together like everyday of the week and she brought up that thing she lost and she was saying how pissed she was that someone stole it, again I started getting nervous. We're kind of friends, I really like her and we get along good. but now she thinks I stole from her, so I feel really anxious and weird around her. I'm terrified she's going to bring it up again. how can I get through this? I didn't do it and I just repeat "I'm a good person, I wouldn't steal" over and over in my head, hoping that my conscious mind will tell my unconscious.
I'm the original poster of this question and thank you all so much for your advice, it means a lot.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (27 January 2012):
 Sounds like you may have an anxiety disorder, they frequently show up as phobias and panic attacks. You need to see a therapist, you won't be able to overcome this without some help and guidance. The books and mp3s can't help if you don't get some professional guidance first. If you are in school there may be a school counselor you can see for free. The normal course for this sort of thing is something called cognitive behavior therapy. They will teach you how to lower your anxiety with breathing and other tricks, then will slowly start to desensitize you to what makes you anxious. Some people also have success with hypnotherapy, but it seems a bit more hit and miss.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (27 January 2012):
 It sounds like you are having panic attacks. You need to see a doctor and discuss the symptoms. You may need some therapy or medications to get the attacks under control. It sounds like it would be very fixable with the right treatment approach.
Best wishes to you.
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reader, Read-the-signs  +, writes (27 January 2012):
I've had this. I once worked in a shop and the day before I was due to leave someone stole money from the till and of course it looked like me because i was only a temporary employee and a poor student. I was totally devastated, and I completely know what you mean. In subsequent jobs, I hated anything to do with handling money in case my integrity was ever called into question wrongly again.
But! You have to realise that these feelings do indeed stem from one bad episode in your life. You already know this. And you have not been wrongly accused since, have you? You are a decent person and have nothing to fear, so chin up and onwards with your life!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2012): Poor love, ask your parents to take you to a good hypnotherapist to 're program' your mind, apparently you are fully aware during the process and it is not brain washing but training the subconscious to better deal with things such as feeling calm and relaxed. Perhaps find some info about it online and take it to them and ask them to help you.If they are old fashioned and not keen on the idea, you could explain that you can see a school councellor but that might take years and make you more anxious over something small but significant that hypnotherapy can solve.I have never done it myself but have researched it and think it would ideal for you in this case.There are hypnotherapy mp3's online you can buy, I have tried some relaxtion ones and they are really good, with practice you could practice yourself 'well' so this does not bother you anymore.
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