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*elinavalens
writes:here goes about 3 months ago my ex of 8 years broke up with me i have 4 children whom he has claimed his own for the last 8 years i was mean to him called him every name in the book i came from an abusive marriage of 20 years before him. this all started when i went to jail for a traffic ticket and he got our income tax back the day i went the past 2 years in a roll i helped him get his liseence back payoff child support etc. it was my turn to gety right he wouldnt fork over a dime even know he still sees the kids calls for them takes my grandmother to church on sundays he says he doesnt want me back ye tmy car stayed at a friends house all night guy he saw it and was upset he says cause he only wanted to know who his friends are. I was very wrong in our relationship to him i know now i love him but what do you think i should i do
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reader, melinavalens +, writes (26 November 2007):
melinavalens is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all for your advice i am so confused but i know i have lost him cause he just doesnt care for the children yes i guess i have to chalk this as my loss live and learn.
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reader, gmapeaches +, writes (26 November 2007):
 wow.. thats tough.. i mean was there a partnership in this.. why wouldn't he fork over a dime of income tax.. and... i don't know.. i think there is more to this.. what were you so mad about that you were verbally abusive.. and having been in an abusive relationship you should know that some things cant be taken back.. i don't know.. my gut tells me he was not nice to you.. and you stood up for yourself, and now you are feeling like you don't want to be alone.. making excuses for him.. could be wrong.. if were wrong all you can do is apoligize.. not do it again.. if somone can not except your apology you can't make them.. you know that whole if you love something set it free crap.. its kind of true.. except in this case there are children that are being hurt.. i don't know.. try to talk to him.. tell him again.. from your heart why you feel you were wrong, and if he won't care then you are quite well rid of him and just don't make the same mistakes with the next.. ..
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reader, ty-ty78 +, writes (26 November 2007):
maybe you weren't meant to be!
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reader, muffy +, writes (26 November 2007):
 let him know that you were wrong and that your sorry.tell him you were in an abusive marriage before him.tell him how you feel.tell him that you still love him.things could get better or youll have to move on.sorry to tell you that.i hope i helpedlove and kisees
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2007): You need to back off. Worry about the kids. Give him space. Let him make his own mind up. And if you know that you really want him you need to avoid seeing other people until you know for sure.
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