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writes:This is about a friendship problem. I was friends with a great person who helped me loads and I enjoyed talking to them. However, over time they became more moody, I never knew where I stood with them and found it hard to interact with them due to their responses.I voiced my feelings and tried to think it would be okay but it got worse again and it was draining and taking a toll on me.I never stopped caring about this friend but I am putting myself and my feelings first, I have learnt that lately.I know she feels bad about this and she has tried to add me back, I just did it for a reason and I feel really torn because it was never about me not caring, I just put my own feelings first for maybe the second or third time in my whole life.Please help with any words of advice. I really would appreciate it. Thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (27 April 2016):
 If you've already been honest with this friend and she seems to feel bad about it then I'd say she got the message and another discussion is premature.
You could accept her friend request and just leave it alone until she contacts you. If and when she does, start fresh by not digging up the past. If she becomes moody again, disengage from the conversation without any drama. Once she sees that she'll have to be more upbeat and positive if she wants to enjoy your company (and your company is enjoyable enough to be an incentive) she'll quickly adapt.
if not, delete her again and be done with it.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 April 2016):
 I agree with aunt honesty. Meet up for coffee, have a chat and BE honest. Maybe she wasn't aware how negative she was till you cut the contact.
If you think it's WORTH reconnecting, then try. GOOD friend are rare.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (26 April 2016):
 If you miss this friend and you want to sort things out, then meet her for a cup of coffee, explain again why you felt her moods where draining you and the friendship, ask her why she was moody, it could have been she was going through a hard time in her life or else she was stressed out, the best medicine is talk to her and see how you both get on.
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