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writes:I've just spent my first christmas alone in 3 years. Worse yet, my ex has gone into a relationship in the past couple of months. I'm lonely, and now she has somebody. I tried not to let it ruin the holiday for me, but knowing that she has somebody to spend this time of year with is upsetting.I know I must accept this as there is nothing I can do about it. Can you give any advice on how I can ease the pain? please...
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reader, Oblivia  +, writes (28 December 2007):
 Hi,
Don't think your happiest days are over, they haven't even started yet! Your happiest days are still to come and this other guy can't be as good as you anyway, complete cock or not. There will be a day when you meet someone much better than her to spend your love on and then you will look back on this time and wonder in surprise how you could ever have thought that the days with this girl were the happiest of your life.
Allow yourself to have a really good time on New Year and don't let any thoughts of her grudge your fun, she will not thank you anyway for giving her the power to ruin your fun.
Best wishes to you on the New Year!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the answer. I was hoping for more than just one, but yours was a good one. I thought about the new year and how it's a chance to move onward and never look back. I'll be honest... We split up over 5 months ago now. We only had about half of 2007 together, but everything seemed as good as always and when she split us up it came as a big shock. I look back on everything we had and feel happy, but sad knowing that it's over. Worse knowing that she's doing things we did with somebody else... Granted, you're right, he could be a complete cock... But then I don't think she would date him if he were.
I'll try my best to stay busy, but months later I still find it hard not to dwell that the happiest part of my life is over, and I just fear I will find nothing better. I guess I just need time, as you say..?
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