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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Dear All,I'm ashamed to say that during my 10 year relationship with my ex boyfriend I was very abusive, I put him down and was even violent towards him and even tho we split nearly 3 years ago and both in new relationships I can't forgive myself.Let me explain I loved my boyfriend dearly but he was very selfish, had a terrible drink and drug problem and would often go off over night forgetting to call me, I spent neatly 8 years worried sick that he might die and I took all this frustration out on him. I was ill physically and mentally suffering from terrible depression, panic attacks and I felt he was never there for me but he was such a lovely person and loved me lots. I've had councelling and am better now but I'm so guilt ridden its eating me up. I'm mortified at my behaviour. What can I do should I just move on or is contacting him and apologising the best thing? He now as a lovely girlfriend and there much more suited so would it be wrong to talk to him now out of respect for her? Any help would be most appreciated as its playing heavily on my heart. Thank you.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (14 February 2013):
As long as you don't go trying to get back with him I think it's a very mature and kind thing to do.
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reader, Hennessy1989  +, writes (14 February 2013):
 You were both wrong for each other, you have both moved on so I think it's better that you just leave it in the past
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2013): no it is not appropriate to contact him now. yOu've been broken up 3 years. Just continue to leave it that way.
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