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writes:Okay, so me and my boyfriend have been together for some time, and even though we are only 15 I know I love him deeply. We have started thinking about a future together, and even though we are young I could see myself with this boy for the rest of my life. the stereotype that teen relationships never last has really started to hurt me because I want this so much. I know that as we get older we will change, but if we really love each other cant we change together and accept them? I never want us to be apart, and I wish high school was over already so we can begin our lives together. But if we weren't meant to last am I just gearing myself up for heartache? I'm tearing up at the thought of our time together ending :'( Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 July 2013):
 if you keep thinking about the future and it makes you sad stop thinking about it and enjoy the moment
sadly what you want at 15 is not what you want at 18 or 21 or 25... or even 30....
I was with my first boyfriend from 15 1/2 till nearly 18 and the breakup was my doing and he was sad and so was I but it was time. Our parents even thought we would get married. Just did not happen.
But I am glad i did not spend my time with him worrying about how long I would be with him.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (18 July 2013):
 The odds are not in your favour, the percentage of high school sweethearts that actually go on to get married and stay together all their life is rather low. Then again, it 's not even an unheard of possibility, some times it does happen, so you might even ending up with being the lucky exception.
Either way, that's something you have no control over, so it's pointless to get agitated about it. It's not that the more you want it , the more you obsess about it, the more your enhance your chances of staving off break ups and heartbreaks. Que sera sera : whatever will be, will be.
So, if you choose to focus your thoughts on the pain you'll feel in case you break up, you are suffering for something that does not exist yet, and you let your imaginary sorrow obscure and spoil the actual, real, current joy of being with him now. Not that smart, don't you think ?
Stay in the moment. If it lasts , hooray- if it does not... you'll cross that bridge when you'll reach there . ( And probably, pardon me, but... seen the attention span and the staying power of the average 15 y. o., if you get to cross that bridge it's quite possible that it will be by YOUR own choice and initiative, because you'll have found Love-Of-My-LIfe No. 2 and you 'll want him to spend the rest of your life with etc.etc. :)
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