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writes: There is this girl I have had a crush on for sometime now, but she works in a high paced work place. We say our hellos and stuff in the mornings but I can't seem to find the time to ask her out without everybody in the place knowing what I'm doing.I'm thinking of writing a letter and giving it to her. What should I write? I have about 20 drafts here and not happy with any of them. Is a letter the right choice?Any advice would be great. Thanks in advance...
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reader, pops +, writes (24 November 2005):
The next time you see her, and she says hello, ask her to stop for a moment, and tell her you would really like to get to know her better, and would she be interested in having coffee with you, ( Or lunch?) Tell her that saying good morning is wonderful, but its driving you crazy. Ask her for her name and phone number, and have a business card made out with your own, so that you can give it to her. If you don't have cards, then have a prepared note with that info on it- nothing more- to give her. Save the long love letters for when you get to really know her. I knew a girl in college who was engaged to some guy back home, and who died everyday she did not receive a letter from him, or phone call. One day the subject came up over dinner with her roommates that someone had written a poem for his girlfriend. The Girl pouted and said no one had ever written a poem for her. Late that night, on my way back to the dorms from the library it began to snow, and as I turned the corner on one of the walkways on the Quad, I looked up to see her walking towards me. Her head was down and she didn't see me until she almost bumped into me. Then she looked up quickly, very frightened, and when she saw it was only me, she gave me a big smile, and asked me what I was waiting for? I told her I saw her coming, and thought it might be nice to walk back to the dorms with her. We walked together, talking about nothing in particular. So, when I got home, I sketched out some prose describing the incident to her. I worked on it for a couple of hours, and then typed up the prose. I took it down to her mail box, and put it in. She got it late the next morning on her way to lunch in the cafeteria. When she saw me, she asked me why I had written this to her? I told her that I didn't like the idea that no one had ever written a poem for her. She cried, and thanked me, and her roommates all thought I was the best medicine a girl could have. No, she didn't break up with her fiance, or date me, or anything like that. We really didn't have much in common. I lost track of her at the end of the semester. She may or may not remember some guy writing her prose one night when she was feeling lonely. But, it worked at the time. Save all that creative juice you have for when you really get to know her. Then knowing what to do and when to do it will be a snap.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2005): How about writing a short and simple letter- Would be good to meet for a drink sometime this week? The ball is then in her court and you can take it from there, it sounds like your over complicating things- if you write everything down she may feel overwhelmed, keep it simple and good luck!
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