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anonymous
writes:HI My story is .. I have been going out with my gf for 3 years and we have a lovely daughter together, I have not really been the best bf or father that I could have been and recently we split up and I went away for a week to see some family. I came back and during my week away, me and my girlfriend decided that we were going to take things slow to see if we can work through our problems and that I was going to move back to my flat because I have been at the family home for months. She has been talking to this other fella called James and she says they're just friends but I'm kinda insecure at the best of times. And when I see them talking online I get really jealous and always ask what there talking about and it's kinda annoying my girlfriend and its driving her away from me because she gets angry and feels like she cant go online without me knowing who she is talking to and what she is doing. I love my gf to bits and would do anything for her. I think that she is undecided whether to keep me as a boyfriend and in a way I'd like to know but every time I ask her she doesn't know and doesn't think we will work out. I'm not saying I blame her in a way cos i realized when I was away that they mean the world to me and I have to step up and be a good role model for my daughter and be a good bf to her and treat her right :-D . I really don't know what to think or do anymore because we can be happy as a family... I really love her and we do have a laugh most times. In the past I have found it hard to find work and I have out of work for 3 years just a part time job here and there and we have spent everyday together and thats when the cracks started to show. I want to move back to the flat but its hard to leave the family home cos I love being here with my daughter and gf.. I kinda feel complete. I hope there is someone out the who has any good suggestions that they think might help us. I'm going to show my gf this post just because I want her to see that she is not the only one who's head is wrecked lol and I hope she can put a post on because she is a bit better at explaining things well thanks for your time and hope to get some replies soon :-D
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2011): Hello :)
Well, as a girl, in this situation I think, I'd like to hear you propose :) Since you already have a daughter, that means that at least there was a time when you were really close. now, you should just tell her how much you love her and your daughter and despite the hard times, that you are ready to do anything to make both of them happy. But no one is God, make things look realistic, you are just a human :) And you will find a job, that's just a matter of time. In this world, we should keep people that are dear to us close. :) good luck. I wish happiness to all three of you. Take care :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2011): ah am not really good in explaining what so ever but i wanted to help you a bit and your gf especially your daughter.being jealous and insecure can cause a lot of problems in relationship or break it up.if you really love her then give her some space like going to some place for a couple of days while you're giving yourself some space too.and whenever you were with her just keep in your mind that she is yours and you love her so you don't need to ask some annoying questions that can make her disappointed or tired of you being around.don't worry about if she's talking to some guy like boyfriend because if she's something like that she's the one who's going to break the relationship and she's the one who will be blamed.just try not to be the one to be blamed of ruining the relationship.you can just let her know how you feel and think of her and your daughter and let her figure out whats next for her to do.you have to do your part and let her do her part.you can just tell her what you think she needs to hear that time and then leave it up to her.you can just tell her that whenever she's ready to give you answers then let you know.please be more confident and secure and try to let go of some small problems that comes into your life.if it comes to a big problems just don't be frustrated or mad or put yourself down.be strong because every problems have a solution just look for it cuz it is somewhere that you don't find that time but you will.
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