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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have been with my boyfriend for around a year. When we first got together we were totally open with each other I told him about things that had hapenned to me in past relationships and he told me everything he'd done in his past, he was a bit of a player. He'd been in a long relationship previous to ours and since then had just seen girls not dated.A little while into our relationship things kept popping up like him being sent photos from ex's on his phone or him telling people he wasnt in a relationship. We had our arguements about these things and after he admitted he'd done wrong and apologised we got back on track and I forgave him.Recently however girls who he says are friends will constantly call and text, at first it didnt bother me its normal to have friends of any sex but when one rang me to tell me she had been dating him for a month I just didnt know what to think. When I asked my boyfriend about this he said he'd ring and see what she was going on about. After he spoke to her he said she'd been really drunk and admitted that she wanted a relationship with him. I obviously asked him to cut contact with her and he said he would but if she text then he would text her bak. I accepted this.We have an amazing relationship and I'm trying my very hardest to get over what happened but I honestly don't know what to do. I want to trust him and I'm trying to give him the benefit of the doubt. But can a player really change?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2009): well what to tell you i think that it isnt fair that your putting all your cards on the table and the fact that he is still talking to exs or even other girls that want to be with him. my bf doesnt even put himself in that kind of situation. keep giving him the benefit of the doubt, but i think players can change, but you have to hold there hand through it they may slip and fall if you dont.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2009): Yes, anyone can change when they find the right person to change for. If he really cares and loves you, and if you are the right person for him, then he will change because he will want to be a better person for you.There is something about the right women, that will make him into a better man."A Man Can Never Fully Be A Man, Until He Finds The Right Women."
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