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writes:I've got to say this or I'm gonna burst, I split with my ex boyfriend over a year and a half ago and I don't think I have truly ever gotten over him. After we split I started seeing someone else and have been happy with him ever since, although I get this nagging feeling about my ex. I still don't know why I should really care because he's been a complete dick to me and everytime I go out he starts on my boyfriend. Thing is he's off to uni very soon as am I, thing is though I kinda want to tell him how I feel before it's too late otherwise I'm going be stuck at uni thinking what if or it would be one of those things I regret big time. If anyone could offer some advice it would be well appreciated.
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reader, wakyowakyo  +, writes (20 September 2007):
hibetter continue with the new one and keep the first as a friend for once a friend always a friend.
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reader, rcn  +, writes (20 September 2007):
 If you are truly happy, why ruin a good thing. I read this poem today that may help you:
Never leave the one you love for one you like,
because the one you like will leave you for the one they love.
Love doesn't have a happy ending,
because love never ends.
Think about how that fits with your question, and follow whichever direction it takes you. If he's being a dick to you, I'd question how he would be to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): I'm wondering if you are into your current boyfriend as much as you think.
Though it is natural to hold a torch for your first love, what is unnatural is to hold that torch lit for someone who behaves like an arsehole.
Take a look at yourself, you are young so there is still hope. Dont be one of these girls who perpetually go for the bad boy arshole dickhead type: you are setting yourself up for a lifetime of being controlled and ultimately misery.
You're young, you're going to Uni, everything's sweet , chances are you will meet other people at Uni ( i guarantee it ) and you'll may even outgrow your boyfriend, but dont dump him because some arsehole who treated you like shit says so.
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reader, Zim +, writes (20 September 2007):
 Firstly, was this ex your first love? If so, then it is not surprising that you still have some feelings for him, particularly if you were going out for a long time. We never do forget our first loves. To give an example, I only really got over my ex about a month ago and we've been split up for 10 months or so. Not as long as you I agree but i've been working at those feelings for a long time and had loads of help.
You two broke up for a reason, and whatever it was, it prevented you two from getting back together. You are now with a guy that you say makes you happy. Your ex on the other hand has been a "complete dick" to you. Does this sound like the kind of relationship you want to rekindle. You have a good relationship with your current boyfriend.
My advice is to continue with him.
I hope that helps. Please feel free to answer if you have more questions.
ZIM
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