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writes: I've been married for about a year now. I have a great marriage. I'm an only child and my parents live quite close to us. We're amazingly close. I talk to them arounnd 2-3 times a week and see them around twice a week. Now here comes a dilemma. We live in Texas and my husbands job wants to move him to Toronto! Thats too far!!! I'm happy for him, since the move would be good for his career, but i don't want to leave my parents here. I would miss them soo much. This is move is optional btw, but it would help his career, and he really seems to want to go. Don't get me wrong, I'm an adult. I ask them for advice but they don't run my life or but into my marriage. We have very close and loving adult relationship as friends. But I've seen people who live away from their family and their relationships lacks the kind of closeness and intimacy that my relationship with my parents does. How do I deal with this? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2007): Texas has some rather large airports, and your parents are only a plane ticket away;;;;I hear Toronto is a neat city and I am sure they would love the chance to visit...plus you don't want to miss out on the opportunity to see the world and the bonus of your husband's career opportunity==they will pay him more for living there, they will pay all of your living expenses, and the dollar is weaker here than in Canada so your money will go farther there then it does in Texas.
You can still talk to them on the phone very cheaply with cell phone plans, I say don't miss out on this and have a great time....
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2007): Do your parents have a computer? If so, a webcam and microphone might be a good idea......then you can still "visit" live with them.
The other poster suggested this, and it seems like a good idea, if you can possibly do it.
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (3 January 2007):
 i have only been in a small situation compare, i moved 500 miles away from my folks and they cant visit me so i have to visit them ( i lived with them and saw my sisters all the time who lived next door and me and one of my sisters is very close ). i felt a little lost without my sister but i wanted to move so that made it easier for me , everyday i miss them but i have a life to lead and that maybe far from them but their always close to my heart. sometimes we dont realise that we can deal with things till we do them. remember they are never to far to call, text email or cam an mic. always holidays to visit them. thats how i cope i have a good friend that i live with which helps. try and not stress over it too much. Yes it is a big step if u choose to do it but look at it calmly and rationally think of the pros and cons to it. talk it over with your partner tell him how you feel, you want him to be happy but youre also worried youreself about it ... hope this helps and all the best xxx
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