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writes:I'm trying to get over my ex so badly but doesn't seem to be working.It's only been over a month but feels like forever. I've try to get my ex back but he's determined to see other people. We were on talking terms but yet again hes began ignoring me and I'm unsure (think he's finds me too much, I don't know) so I just decided to get rid of everything to do with him to help me move on. I delete his number, his email addy and things his ever sent me. That just makes me think of him more. So I decided to get rid of everything I have that remind of him. I sent him the photos I had of him (which I think was a mistake now but seem great idea at the time). Things haven't gotta better I seem to be thinking of all the time, only time I don't is when I'm too busy to. The thing is apart from the fact I love him, I don't know why I would want to be with him. We use to have a good relationship but after January it just went down. I had to work for everything, he never seem to want anything to do with me even though he said so. I've tried dating but you know one of the golden rules of dating is to never mention your ex or past relationship well I did and I have. All I want is to move on, I'm seventeen it's not like my love life over but that's how it feels. I hoping to get away this summer maybe a change of scene will help me get over him. I don't know what else to do get over him. I know it takes time but I sick of thinking about him, dream about him, just sick of thoughts of him. I just want it to be over.
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (26 May 2006):
 Good luck and stay in good spirits, Life can be so so different with each path or corner we turn.
Take care!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWendyg i really do think you are right, i did do it to get a reaction out of him. It really annoey's me the fact that i want to be with him after hows his been towards me. I'm hoping to get away this summer and work so that'll take my mind off him for awhile, hopefully.
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (25 May 2006):
Yes time is a great healer, and it does take time to get over someone, we dont know how long as each of us is different.
But want I actually think you are doing is trying to find ways to get back with him, and thats why your still hanging on to the hurt. I know you said you deleted things, posted off photos etc, but you did that for a reaction, in the hope that he would come running back, you may not realise it, but you are secretly harbouring that he's gonna come back and your gonna take him back, and you are probably over analysing in your head the situation and how things could have been changed, and if only you had done this or done that... or maybe even trying to see what it would be like if you got back together and how you would change things...
You need to totally block him out of your mind, whenever you feel like thinking of him, do something else, no matter what it is and keep doing this until the feeling fades. You need a change of scene also, find new things to do, challenges, anything that can keep you active, do things that you would never have done with him. You do say you had to do all the work in the relationship towards the end, perhaps its that that your missing, a purpose of sorts, see if you cant find something to become a part of and work towards a goal. Before you know it things will be easier and you may even meet someone nice along the way.
Take care
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