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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi I feel very odd and weird but I think I masturbate weirdly.. I've been doing it since I was young as I can remember and I feel odd and don't get pleasure off sleeping with my partner. I have to masturbate on ny own to get the feeling. I lay on ny back and put my Palm on my vaGina and forcefully rubbing vagina on my hand and moving my hips and then I get an orgasm but I want to get out the habit of this and enjoy sex. I'm worried about this and seeing people talking about masturbating weirdly has given me some confidence to write on here.Please please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2014): I had this problem with my ex boyfriend. I wouldnt climax with him so instead I would masturbate on my own. We broke up and I started sleeping with this guy I work with and the sex is intense. The chemistry is off the charts. Every time he begins to penetrate me I immediately want to climax. I am so attracted to him. The sex is phenomenal. So I realized I just wasn't really attracted to my ex boyfriend. I hope that is not the case for you cause that would suck but it was certainly the case for me. Another weird thing is this: I'm more sexually attracted to guys who are brunette with brown eyes. This guy I am sleeping with is brunette/brown eyes and I want to devour him. My last two boyfriends were both blonde with blue eyes. And I wasn't as attracted to either one of them as I am with my current guy. And even in the past Ive always liked brunettes/brown eyed guys more. Even fall in love with them more easily. Its weird.
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female
reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (23 January 2014):
 so very normal.
less than 30% of all women orgasm from penetration... since intercourse (what most men think of sex) is penetration then MOST women are not having orgasms from SEX.
you sound perfectly normal to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much this has been a huge help to me.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (23 January 2014):
 You sound perfectly normal and I don't think you have anything to worry about.
This has been asked and answered here so often I will post links:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-cant-orgasm-during-intercourse-is-it-my.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/are-all-women-capable-of-having-orgasms-through.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/im-scared-my-penis-wont-give-her-an.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-it-common-that-i-cant-orgasm-im.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-cant-orgasm-with-my-boyfriend.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-inability-to-orgasm-is-causing-me-to.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/cant-reach-orgasm-during-sex.html
You aren't weird.
You are normal.
Show your partner how you like to be touched.
There is no failure in it.
Relax.
Have fun.
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reader, wiseoldman  +, writes (23 January 2014):
For a woman, masturbation simply allows her to discover the particular way she likes to be touched; there's nothing wrong with it. (For a male it's an admission of failure but that's another story) When you and your partner are in bed and relaxed, show him how to bring you to climax manually in the way you find enjoyable. After he's become adept at this, have him do this until you're about to climax, then penetrate you as he continues the stimulation. (this may take experimentation regarding positioning, etc. so don't expect results immediately but keep working at it, and think of it as 'a labor of love')Soon you'll be accustomed to climaxing while being penetrated, and the two of you can expand your repertoire from there.
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