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writes:Help please!Been in a relationship for 6 years and now cheating, don't know how to stop.I'm hoping from some advice here, as my friends and family are sick of hearing of all the turmoil in my life. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years now, day in/day out, we work together, live together, we used to be perfect, I was obsessed with him and dropped all my friends and family for him. I do everything for him. I also helped him deal with drug problems, alchohal, and then last year he lost his mother suddenly, his father moved on immediately and is now married, he lost his home, his mother was his financial support, he lost that..so now he has to actually work (he used to be well off..but the dad has made him fend for himself now.) so i created a business and we became partners so i could help him. I thought we were partners for life, my business totally depends on him. I met a guy while away and have met other guys on my travels...and cheated a few times, harmless at first, but the last one i slept with and I like him. Not too sure how serious this guy is about me..but i am sure he will not continue this much longer until i break up with my bf. Even though i am working/living with my bf, i find ways to see this other guy and I want to continue it, but i don't want to lose my bf at the same time, i can't we've been through so much, i thought i wanted to marry him and he is very attractive, its weird but i just don't want anyone else to be with him. We have been fighting alot lately and i don't know if its because of the guilt i feel about cheating or because his whole life turned upside down. But for one year he has treated me like shit, he calls me bad names..gets physically abusive and i'm scared of course we always apologize and then things are good for a bit. i love him. If we break up i stand to lose my business, cause i can't do it without him, i've wasted 6 years and i am terrified of being single. The other guy lives across the world and i don't know how that work either. We'll be apart for a month during christmas..i will be seeing this other guy, what should i do...i can't be alone, i've never been single...i want to stop cheating but i also hope my bf changes...
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your advice...sorry for the confusion! K..basicly he doesn't know I'm cheating..it's like my secret way to get back at him. i know the relationship is crazy at times...but it's been 6 yrs, do i leave him and risk losing my business/partner, maybe he will change. Also, I don't know why but i just can't end it with this other guy...i want both. The other guy knows about the bf, he'll probably force me to make a decision anyway.
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reader, tariah14  +, writes (2 September 2007):
 hea whats up i really dont get what u saying u cheat on him to change him.well thats not changeing him it's making worser. he'll just keep treating bad until u stop cheating cause he might know
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