I want to stop being gay because it is destroying my life!

A male age 36-40, *ufb writes:

Alright i need a lot of help here. I want to try to get over my gay tendencies and stop thinking about guys. Being a gay guy has just destroyed my life, it has completely left me empty inside. I can't find friends like me because to tell you the truth all the gay guys i meet are feminine, and that bothers me soooo much. Im a masculine guy and if i could meet another good looking guy who was gay too i would be happy, but it seems like there just isn't any good looking gay guys out there. I mean im completely depressed about the whole situation. Not to mention the good looking guys i do meet and become friends w/ are all straight and either have a girlfriend or are married (but none over 26 yrs old).. thats the cut off line for me. and some of the guys im talking about make me think that they might be gay and i know that they are hanging w/ other guys who i know are, but my buds, one in particular blatantly denies that he hangs out w/ the guy. hes married and has a kid, and says hes really my friend, but yet denies the fact that he spends time w/ the other dude. its made me so miserable that i can't think straight any more. why won't he tell me the truth. like i said he told me before that he doesn't hang out w/ the dude, and the time he did it was only because they were doing drugs and he got some pot for free from him, thats the only reason he did hang out w/ him after work. sounds kinda odd to me. im not innocent in all this cause for a long time me and my bud smoked pot all the time, every break at work, on the weekends and after work sometime. Why does it bother me though that he hangs out w/ this other dude and why do i think that he really has some gay relationship w/ him? a little background, my friend who well call "keith" is married is 26 yrs old, has a daughter, is very religious, says hes the farthest thing from gay ill ever know, but yet has absolutely no problem w/ me being bisexual,and ive already told him that im in love w/ him, but it hasn't affected our friendship at all, in fact he says hes gonna try to help me overcome my problems as much as he can, yet,he is very secretive about some things. I wanna beleive that hes straight so i don't get my heart broken. does it sound like hes straight to you guys?

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