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writes:I had just gotten out of a strong but unstable relationship a few months before all of this happened. I had gone off to college to (get an education) get away from my parents and hopefully find out something about myself. It was about a year after my ex and I had split when I was walking out of a classroom and saw her. This amazingly beautiful girl with eyes that sparkled so bright in the January sun. She even smiled at me that first day, making my day in the process. I would hope to see her every day I was to be in that building, and occasionally I would. Finally when I built up the nerve to ask her out, she disappeared. I figured she dropped the class. One day, a few weeks later, I was playing a game of football in an empty lot and I saw someone who looked vaguely familiar walking up onto the field. It was her. I then learned her name, and tried my best to introduce myself to this not-so-strange stranger. And she was exactly the same in her mannerisms as her looks: gentle, sweet, beautiful. Over the next few months, we had developed a fairly good friendship together and I began to have very strong feelings about her. Some few days later, we (a small group of mutual friends, 5-6) were just talking in her dorm room, and we got on the topic of dating/marriage. She said something about how she was waiting on God to provide her with the one man He wants her to marry, and she wasn't out looking for guys at that point. That she would tell any guy who wants to date her that they have to talk to her dad first and foremost. While hearing that mas a minor setback of sorts, it did not dissuade me as much as many. We continued to talk/text/call for a few more months, and I began telling a few close friends about how I was feeling. They would offer advice, and I would always try to listen as well as I could. I even had her roommate tell me that "if she was interested in any guy , it would be me at the top of the list." Then I heard one of them told her about how I felt about her. I figured she knew anyways, because I had been dropping hints to her and she was picking up on them regularly. Well now that I know she knows all about this whole situation, it's feeling more and more like I need to tell her how I feel even though I know she knows all about it. QUESTION: Should I risk a pretty good friendship that I've built up over the past year and a half for something that I believe could be worth both of our time in the long run? She's a very sweet girl, and more than what I am looking for in a partner. So much more. I'm just petrified of losing her, but I do want to see what lies ahead with us. Such a common dilemma I'm sure, but please try to answer my question honestly. Thanks :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): I think you should go for it, and tell her you will happily talk to her Dad first.
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