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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I want to move on after my ex-boyfriend disappeared on me 6 months ago, what I mean by that is I feel I'm ready for a friendship or even a love relationship with a man. The thing is I cannot start a conversation for the life of me I am pretty shy unless someone starts talking to me cause that gives me something to think about and further the conversation with. I don't go to bars but I do drink occasionally at home or at the beach. I've always been shy even though I come from a family of loud boisterous people. I was in the grocery not 10 minutes ago and there was this guy and he was looking at me and got nervous and he said I'll put my stuff here and smiled and I also got nervous and decided not to look at him cause I did not know what to do :(. I hate my shyness it's holding me back what should I do and how can I start up a conversation please any good tips.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (15 May 2012):
 Practice saying these words, in front of the mirror: "Hi, nice to meet you, my name is ________, what's yours?" Smile a little when you say those words. You don't have to grin from ear to ear.
Record yourself saying those words, so you get comfortable with yourself saying them.
"By the way, my name is _______. What's your name? Nice to meet you."
"Hi, I'm _______, nice to meet you."
Now, when you go to the supermarket or wherever you are, practice introducing yourself to people. Try starting with women, not because you are trying to pick them up, but because you are trying to learn to be comfortable and confident in presenting yourself to people.
The thing is to get comfortable with hearing yourself say the words out loud. Just practice a lot in the privacy of your own house and then try it on lots of people. You will eventually work through the shyness.
Try some volunteer work where you have to approach people, manning booths at health fairs or similar things. That will give you something to talk about and you will be exposed to lots and lots of different people. It's great training for life.
Good luck!
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