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writes:my situation is ..blah. i have a best friend. me and her have been bestfriends since we were both 6. we have done everything together, and have not the least bit grew apart from eachother, even though we dont always keep in touch, we have and always will be best friends. she wants me to move away to where she's been at for the last year or so. i really really want to, really bad. ive already been livng somewhere other then where my family is, so the only reason i have to stay around where i am right now is my boyfriend who moved here with me the same time i moved to where we are now. (where in ohio now, we're all from pennsylvaina, but she lives in vermont now)he isnt going to want to move there, i already know that, and he's going to make breaking up with him hard on me. i have to do it while hes at work. i feel bad about it but at the same time i dont, but at the same time im not sure if i can bring my self to actually stay gone from him. we had a horrible relationship for a long time, but then all the sudden he changed and now he treats me very good. he cheated on me and never came clean about it, but because he's changed so much and by his own choice i forgave him with out him asking, or even apologizing since he lied about it.. the guy he is now is better then any guy ive ever been with, but the way he was before was someone i dont know why i gave a chance to. thats how i know it would be hard to leave him now, i couldnt leave him then. but im really considering doing it now, and this time its going to be me breaking his heart. should i be feeling pitty for him? or reconsidering this? im not sure what my question is, but i'd really like some input on my situation here. another thing is i told him that since he decided he wants a real relationship with me this time, a happy one, that i would put everything from the past behind us and forgive him if he would atleast be honest about the times he's cheated on me. he still wont. thats the only problem we have now, he wants it to be dropped, and i feel if he really has chnged and know that the way he treated me before, then he could man up and be honest about it all. i know he isnt going to come clean, but i know if i leave him, theres a chance he will because he'd probley do whatever he had to do to get me back. its crazy that he loves me all the sudden, its what i always wanted. but if i have to leave for him to come clean then i feel a confession after im moved 200 plus miles away isnt going to work for me. consider that when you give input on any area of this situation any one can give helpful input on. thanks everyone! p.s. im very grateful to have found a site as honest and useful as this one!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2010): Well most guys WILL move on eventually. so yes you should break up first, because if they find out on their own it will hurt their feelings a lot, I may only be 13 but even I know that
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