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male
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51-59,
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writes:How can I trust a woman i love? What should I do? Her DOB is 13Oct 1987. In 2006, she fell in love with someone who didn't love her back, just gave her a company, spent time with her. A one-sided love. It continued for nearly six months. The man suddenly got married (settle type) meanwhile which she came to know lately. She was so crazy for him that although she was broken learning about his marriage, she pleaded to him for marrying her (making her 2nd wife). He denied and went away. She went hopeless. It ended. She desperately searched for a caring relationship to heal the wound and through internet, got one (mr. X). With this man she was sexualy intimate but she later realized she didn't love him (she was also intimate with the previous man). This man loved her though. It continued for 4yrs and in 3rd yr, she suddenly got infatuated 1st with one of her teachers with whom she only did online chatting and 2nd with a friend of her elder brother with whom she had sex. As she let this know to x, he got frustrated and walked way, eventully they broke up. While she was in relationship with x, in 1st yr, I proposed her but she refused saying she loves x so she can't. After all these happened she knocked me and said that she made a lot of mistakes, she regrets and wants to spend her life with me. She gave a condition if her parents aggree, we could get married. Mentionable she didn't bother for the condition in her previous relationships ever. I doubt if she really loves me. Besides as she often got infatuated with men, I can barely trust her but truth is I love her and I mean it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2012): Hey dude, I am having a similar situation back a few months ago..as I am still recovering from my wound..I can only offer you my 2 cents worth of advice..
You are right on your feeling because you cannot trust her past..her past are simply too complicated to be accept by a normal traditional person..i need to ask you some questions. how well do you actually know about her past? Does she lies a lot just to cover up some of her mistakes? Is she 100% true to what she said to you? Does she gives u 100% attention when she with you? In all her past relationship, does cheat? Is she the one who was always the central core of the problems in her past relationship?? Can she really commit in a relationship?? Is she a controller in all her relationship? Does she always blame others for all their fault when it is obvious she is the one responsible for it?
From what I see, maybe she is using you as a lifeline becoz you are easy to take her bullshit, plus you love her more than she loves you..that make it possible for her to control you easily..I been through that stage in the past few months..suffering from depression, my whole self esteem and life crush down because I couldnt believe actions of my ex does.
Woman always like what they can't have, so that explain why she is so crazy about that married guy. If she is the healthy person who wants healthy relationship, she wouldn't want to get intimate with another person while she still with mr x. She is confused and she is the person who like men to shower her with attention.
My best advice is find out more about her past, if cheating is always what she does and she always have the reasons to counter back, then she cannot be truthful to u..you wouldnt know either if she is cheating behind your back now with some other internet flirting as well. save yourself from all the heartbreak..I been through that, and will not want you to follow my footsteps. Look straight into her heart to get her intention clear. If she want to hide and cover up her actions, most probably she will not want u to know her inner world. You wouldn't want to spend your life with this kind of person of she can't be truthful to you or when you cant trust her..it will make u go crazy as the relationship progress. Hope you will be able to find what you want. All the best and good luck!
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