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writes:I know this is going to sound silly but I,ve recently slept with a guy that I,ve been dating for 3 months now and he was my first. The thing is since we slept together he's been kinda distant.( silliness bout to come up ) But I want to make sure he didn't use me for sex. I want at least 3 more date without sex just to make sure he didn't use me. How do I go around this if he is becoming distant? Reply to this Question
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reader, dougbcoll  +, writes (17 October 2011):
 time will tell, if he seems distant it may be because he got what he wanted and is pulling away from you, or he may also feel guilt along with it. my advice would be to not distance yourself from him show him the same love you always have to him ,but also not give in to sex with him.you will see he will either start getting closer to you or distance him self even further, and go to some other girl looking for it. if he keeps pulling away from you till he has very little to do with you it would be safe to say he was in it for what he could get.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (17 October 2011):
 There is not a lot you can do to be honest, all you can do is simply ask him why he is being so distant, or you can just wait and see what happens. If he is being distant you cant force him to speak to you or see you again, I guess you could just ask him out on a date and see if he agrees?
But it does sound to me that if he is being distant after you had sex, then either he wasnt pleased with the experience, or he got what he wanted and he was just using you. Only time will tell if he contacts you to see you again - if he doesnt well then you have your answer, he was just using you.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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