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writes:I am so confused. I'm 18 years old girl i've got a 24 year old boyfriend he's muslim i'm sikh.we've only been dating for a month but knew eachother 2 months before and we have even had our little up and downs but i love him so much and vice versa. hes my first boyrfriend, first kiss first true love.it's hard becuase i think he's the one but we both spoke and we won't be able 2 marry..but then we say we want eachother for ever and can't live with eachother so who knows we might be together for ever..but i'm worried. i want to make lvoe with him not yet maybe in another months time i feel ready but just want to wait a little bit longer... but sikh girls are suppose to wait till they marry otherwise won't be tight..and it'l cause loads of problems. but same time its liek clash of cultures..i love my b.f and feel ready i want to make love to himwhat do i do everything is so confusing
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reader, unique-angel +, writes (25 May 2009):
unique-angel is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the replies but jst to amke clear dont want sex yet but in couple of months
he alreayd said he will wait as long as i want and i said 6 months but to be honest that shows he cares and i am ready
thanks for replies xxxxxxxxxx
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reader, LIERIN  +, writes (25 May 2009):
 This is very hard subject...
I am not religious, but I went through something lil simillar. Was dating a Greek guy, was suppose to get married, he was ready to go against his fathers will and was ready to go against everythign to be we me - so I thought. But he didnt do it, his father and religion issues were stronger than his love for me and we broke up, because we knew, we could never be together.
Maybe you should consider whats more imporatnt to you. Break up your religious believes and be with each other, no matter what and no matter if you lose your family ... or let each other go separate ways because either way, this will not end up nicely and one or both of you will be devastated when the time comes and you will have to break up.
Lots of girls that want to be w their partner sexually but their religion doesnt alowe them to ... have anal sex to keep their virginity for later. maybe you can consider that as well.
Good luck to you and your loved one
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (25 May 2009):
 Just to add to Loopy14...
Some people have time span rules of X months before doing anything sexual with a new partner. By following that rule, it gives them a chance to know the person more and not rush things.
Since religion is a personal thing, it's up to you to follow it or not. Some, however, admitted that they felt a bit guilty, afterward, for not following their fate.
Take your time with it.
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reader, Loopy14 +, writes (25 May 2009):
 This is quite a sensitive subject, you either follow your religion or follow your heart. As i am not from a religious background i would vote follow your heart every time however you need to ask yourself, how comfortable and serious are you about your beliefs? Are you following this faith in order to carry on tradition and please your family or because you really want to. I think your in a really difficult position here and i hope you make the decision which will make you happiest and give you the best quality of life.
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