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writes: I'm really into my floral teacher from my 4th period class,and I'm actually planning at some point,to get him to notice me. Ok first, I understand that it's illegal, not because I'm underage, cause I'm 19 and he's 25, but because its against the law for a student to be with a teacher. And furthermost, I do not have any intentions of "sleeping" with him, I'm not that kind of girl. I really do like him, and care about him too. I just can't stop thinking about him, and I wish he knew how I felt. When I'm around him he makes me so nervous, that when he talks to me I can't make eye contact with him, I just look down at my desk. He probably thinks I'm so uninterested which is probably a good thing, don't want him to suspect. I am a senior and about to graduate in 3 months, and I wouldn't want to ruin my senior year or put his job at risk. But I can't help it, I really like him or even love him perhaps, and I can't tell anyone about it. I mean if something would ever happen between him and me, we would keep it a secret. I question myself in so many ways, like if he didn't care about his job, how would I be sure that he will notice me anyway? or will he be strictly professional and refuse? I don't know what to do, if I should go for it or just keep it to myself. Please don't tell me to forget him or leave it alone, try to understand me, but please also be honest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks I wish you the same, hk stands for hello kitty. (I'm a big fan despite my age but yet don't think theres any wrong in that!)
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reader, aimeebabe  +, writes (9 March 2010):
I love to read about other peoples'similar dilemas, thanks for sharing.i also try to spend as much as time as i can with my professor.he may be in his late 30s, but i am facinated by him.Good luck with your floral teacher,and if he didn't notice that's good, just don't make the same mistake again.It might be awkard for him even though he doesn't know you like him.
I'm new to this site and I'm just curious, what does hk mean?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes, he's a floral design teacher, but I think he teaches other subjects too, and well, theres never a day I don't talk to him. But it's just questions or if I need help with the lesson, that class is mostly easy but I like it. I'm very good at not making it obvious to him, cause usually I don't bug him that much but today was different. I think it was cause this was the last time I was going to see him before springbreak.(Which sucks!)
I couldn't stop looking at him and I tried to ask him as much questions as possible. Big no no, but you know what? He didn't even notice!! For some reason he was too busy texting on his cell which made me wonder who he was texting!! He acts normal with me like he would with any other girl, but usually he's very atentive to my questions. Today he was off or deaf, cause everytime I asked him something he didnt hear me, and I had to ask once more.
But yeah, I have to be more careful next time!
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reader, aimeebabe +, writes (9 March 2010):
I've got the same problem, but I'm in college and my professor is much older and divorced. I say you at least try until the end of the year, you never know how he will react. But you say hes a floral teacher? do you talk to him often, have you made it noticable? how does he act around you?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (7 March 2010):
 Thanks hkchick for viewing that article and I have given my reply below your comments.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Laura, please check the reply I posted on the article if you havent done so already, really apreciate thanks!
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (6 March 2010):
I wrote an article on my site and you could go there and read it . It may help you to understand your problems.
http://laura1318.wordpress.com/2008/01/03/help-i-am-falling-in-love-with-my-teacher/
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (6 March 2010):
Sometimes , there are things which are better left unsaid because, once when the cat is let out of the bag, the magic maybe gone and you find that the situation will changed.
You may mean well but that person may take it in another way and may misunderstood your meaning.
There is always a danger because love may not mean the same to different person and differing age groups.
There is a risk and your relationship may go into the cold storage and he could avoid you or you won't feel as free as before.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh and as for the title of the question, it was supposed to be "Infatuated with teacher, how to deal?". I don't know why that got posted, I mean I like him a lot, way more than I have with anyone else. But honestly in my 19 years of life, I might not even know what love is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI really apreciate the advice, although I would like to hear more about what people have to say, whether it's something I want to read or not. And I do think it's best to wait. But I don't think I will ever be willing to do that. Not cause I'm shy although being around him makes me shy, but of how he will react. I don't want to make this situation uncomfortable for him. I guess since I'm out this year it doesn't really matter. Ahh if only he knew! Funny thing is he has no clue whatsoever. And as for unknown girl, I'm very happy for your sister, it's nice to know and keeps my hopes still alive.
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reader, UnknownGirl  +, writes (4 March 2010):
I'm in same situation and I say go for it, you'll totally regret it if you never say something. Make sure it's after you graduate though. And to anyone who doesn't believe it can work out, it really can. My older sister is finally with her old professor that she finally told once she was done with her class.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (4 March 2010):
 If you want honesty then you'll be hearing "forget him or leave it alone". No other options I'm afraid. But on the upside, whether you believe it or not this crush will pass very shortly after you graduate.
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