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writes:I am mid 20's and an attractive female. Unfortunately I have an afinity for losers. I have recently started talking to this guy who has an education, nice job, and a decent guy, and not because he isn't attractive. Even if I found him attractive I still have all this pent up anger and aggression for my ex. He lied, cheated repeatedly, beat me, and left me pregnant. Recently he has come back into my life claiming he's changed and wants a relationship with his daughter. I fell for it, he saw her once he said he loved and wanted to be with me slept with me, then told me he was in a relationship and wasn't sure whether or not we would work out because he knew I was still anger with him. I can't stand him. I have terrible fantasies about him reguraly. I just want to move on. I want to find a good man. I don't understand what my problem is. Why can't I just let him go? Why can't i just move on. The anger is crippling and constant and affects every area of my life and is getting worse. I'm an emotional wreck and I can't seem to let go of it. I pray every day for him but it doesn't seem to work. Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2012):
I agree that you may need therapy to deal with your feelings in a healthy way.
Part of the problem is that you are not really taking responsibility for your part in this. Not deep down in your heart. Your are saying that you should have known better than to stay with him so long. But your emotions are still focusing all that anger at him instead of yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2012): I agree... you need to see a therapist who will help you get past this. He is obviously not looking to make a family with you and his child. I suggest you move on, really move on. Only talk to him or see him when it concerns your child, otherwise just ignore him. He just cheated on the woman he is in a relationship with, with you. I don't think you want to be the one who breaks another girls heart. Really think carefully about your next steps with him.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (22 August 2012):
 I strongly suggest some therapy as a way to help you cope with your anger and pain.
since you have a child with him going NO CONTACT is not possible but I would strongly suggest that you limit all contact with him to things that pertain to your child and if possible have a good attorney do the work for you.
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