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writes:i want to leave my husband but im so afraid i wont be able to cope on my own.we own a buisness together and live at the place of work, we moved away from my family ,so i feel even more isolated, which means if i leave i wont have a job or a place to live.my daughter is also pregnant ,she is oly 18 but lives away from me this is also worring me as i wont be able to support her financialy, as i would do if i where still with him he has said i would walk away with no money as the buisness is not that busy, we put all our live savings into it. please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2007): Why do you want to leave him? I know you have a great deal of issues to resolve with your business, your finances, home, your own daughter but I think you need to go and see RELATE. My uncle is a RELATE counsellor and they would be able to tell you what the ramifications are for all of you including your husband.
RELATE is free, so before you start wondering what and who is entitled to what, find out the facts first. Have you talked to anyone about this? Professional, friend or a family member or even him at how unhappy you are?
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reader, rammsteinfan  +, writes (30 April 2007):
 Here where I am from, when a woman leaves/divorces her husband is that she is entitled to half of the estate (i think that you have to show cause why..like he commited adultry, was abusive to you (physical or mental) ect. I heard from one of my friends that there are government funds here that helps single women with getting funds to start their own business (and some of those funds you don't have to pay back). Also there is help to women 18 and over that are pregnant..with a place to live and a monthly allotment plus medical help.
I don't know if there are any programs like that in your country. But you could do some research on the internet or where you reside!
I hope that you do find the same programs that we have here in the States! My prayers are with you, your daughter, and your unborn grand baby!!!!! God Bless the 3 of you!!!! :)
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reader, cd206 +, writes (29 April 2007):
 It sounds as if your husband is trying to blackmail you to stay by saying there will be no money. If you own half the business then half of the money belongs to you and even if he has to sell the business to give you your share then he is legally obliged to do that. Maybe you won't be comfortably off if you leave him but money is so transient. It's much better to be happy and without money than miserable with it.
I'm sure you feel it's your duty to support your daughter but part of being a parent is letting go. She's embarking on her own family now and she needs to cope alone, however harsh that is. I'm sure she'd rather you were happy than miserable and able to give her occassional money. Lots of 18 year olds have babies and manage to support themselves. She's probably not that different, she just hasn't tried because she hasn't had to so far. Do what makes you happy because at the end of the day life is too short to spend time being miserable.
CD
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