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writes:Just want some thoughts on my situation.I have been in a serious relationship with my guy for 6 months, serious meaning we both want long term and to eventually move in, etc. We are both in our 40s and had previous relationships.A month ago we talked about getting engaged and agreed we would both like to in a few months, we went to look for a ring, found the perfect one and my boyfriend put down a 50% deposit.We had a big fight last week and it had thrown our plans up in the air. My boyfriend hasn't mentioned engagement.I am off to the town tomorrow and asked him if I should go and make sure it fits as I had to have it resized. He was all for it. Is this a good sign he wants it all back on?I know he could have suggested I wait until he goes with me as I know that is what he wanted to do in the past.I just want a few views from others? He says he still wants to get engaged and married when we talked about it. I know he is a little scared, as I am too but I do know I want him and he has said the same.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2012): when you say you had a 'big fight' last week, how big or serious was it?
every couple will have disagreements and conflicts.
But some conflicts, depending on the topic and context, are major and signifying that the relationship maybe should be called into question. For example if the big fight was about discovering one of you has been unfaithful, or lied or betrayed the other's trust, then that would call the whole relationship into question and rightfully so.
Was your big fight last week of the latter kind, or not?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 May 2012):
 Just because you both had an argument does not mean that everything to do with the engagement should be called off. If you are going to worry about that every time you both argue then that is no good. You need to communicate with him, talk to him, ask him how he feels, ask him does he want to go with you. You both don't seem to know how each other feel, and this needs to change if you are going to get married. So sit down and talk to him.
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