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female
age
41-50,
*rysper
writes:So, my husband and I have been together for 5yrs and married for 2yrs. My husband use to compliment me all the time, and me being a woman I need these lil compliments to make me feel better! We've had many of problems in our relationship down to actually splitting up for a few months the getting back together. I've change my color to blonde bc he wanted that so I finally gave in to it. I've bought clothes that I normally wouldn't buy or wear. I've worn more makeup and also less makeup. I've done everything possible to make him notice me more but still I get no compliments at all!!! Instead of saying something nice he finds something to complain about. I love my husband with all my heart, but I don't feel he thinks I'm attractive at all!!! I did gain alil weight(and for that matter he's also gain a lot of weight,but I love it, I actually am more attracted to him now then a few yrs ago)so I figured maybe it's bc I have bigger clothes,ya know just less sexy, so I went on a diet and actually losing a lot of weight and I'm feeling better about my self, but now he said I'm getting to skinny, he has nothing to hold on to. But when I weighted alil more he didn't hold on to it. So I'm totally confused on how to please him!!! I feel beautiful in some what on the inside, I'm just wanting my husband to feel the same way about me. I'm always touching on him, grabbing him just feeling him if he walks pass me. And he just still can say something nice to me. And he also gets alil upset if someone on the outside pays me a compliment which happens all the time. Although it's nice and they do make me feel good I want to hear my husband tell me them things. And yes I've talked to him about this and he's way of making it all better was saying "yeah your beautiful"!! I'm tired of asking and waiting for him to make me feel special!!! Some advice is needed please!!!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (15 August 2014):
 What you've described is clearly a 50/50 relationship.....
you GIVE 50%..... and he TAKES 50%....
Not very promising for a long-term future. I'd suggest that you reconcile that this marriage and relationship has run its course, and YOU can do better...
Good luck....
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