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30-35,
*iwl_4ever
writes:I used to date "joe" for a month when he broke up with me. I really like Joe and we decided to stay friends with benefits. Joe cheats on his girlfriend and I have always felt like a horrible person. Then, Joe finally told me he had sex with his girl and I let Joe go (haven't talked to him since). Now, Joe has a sister, "lucy", she is really nice to me. Lucy, is madly in love with her boyfriend "Jake" and when i first met Jake I didn't know he had a girl so i flirted with him until he told me who he went out with. Now, I keep in touch with Jake and he told me that when he first met me he wanted to have sex with me. He still wants to have sex with me and I do too. But I'm scared to take action because thats Joe's sister. And I still have feelings for Joe. But I want to have sex! Does that make me a whore? I don't know what to do. He says I'm not a whore and that he's not stupid enough to tell his girl or others. But will he? I'm scared that Joe will find out. Help me please!
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (8 June 2011):
Wanting to have sex with someone that you are attracted to does not make you a whore. Having sex is not the issue. The issue is that having sex will involve betrayal to others. To have sex with someone who's girlfriend loves him, and who you know and who likes you, would be a really hurtful thing for her. Knowing that it would be very hurtful, you have to ask yourself what kind of person you want to choose to be. It is also worth asking if it is in your best interests to let others use you for sex, and for you to use them for sex. Why not aim a little higher? Not that you have to of course, there is nothing wrong with simply enjoying sex, but the question is worth asking.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2011): Look you really are not hanging out with the best types of people that is clear, it is also clear that Jake and somewhat Joe are only interested in using you.
Stay away from them untill you are strong enough in your own mind to have a good and independant life and perhaps find some people with a good character to hang out with.
It is frankly gross that Jake has the idea that you are happy to have sex with him while he is going out with someone else. You are not a cat with nine lives..
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