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writes:Need some advice. I miss my ex boyfriend. We were together 6 months in LDR and he broke up with me because of timing and because he couldn't give me what I wanted. This was 3 months ago (ish).The last thing I said to him was that I couldn't be friends. (purely because I know what I'm like in that situation, i will always behave stupidly to draw attention to myself).I want to contact him again sometime soon, but don't know what to say. It isn't about getting back together with him, I don't want that at this moment in time. It's about being his friend and chatting to him every now and again. We were friends before we went out, so it wouldn't be too weird.What do I do and what do i say!?
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reader, Miamine +, writes (11 March 2012):
 Double posting.. poster updates on here http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-can-i-get-my-ex-back-as.html
She met this man at university and has seen him several times.
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reader, MsSadie  +, writes (5 March 2012):
 That's a toughy. I struggled with a similar situation (except my ex isn't long distance). Your best bet is to just send a simple "hey, how goes things?" Don't make it too personal in case he is opposed to the idea of getting back with you. While that may not be your intention, it may be what he thinks your intention in contacting him is.
Honestly, though, if you want to be friends but "know what [you're] like in that situation], I would suggest not contacting him at all. It could very well just end in your misery or jealousy when you hear about him dating other girls.
Don't be disappointed if you cannot rekindle your relationship. It happens sometimes, and can be the best remedy to get you to move forward.
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