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writes:I am eighteen years old and my friends all go clubbing and have a laugh at the weekends. However, I am muslim and my parents won't let me out past 7pm!! And even then I have to give a fully detailed account of what I'm doing, why I'm doing it, how I'm doing it and when I'm doing it. You get the idea. Quite frankly, i am so sick of not having any freedom at all, i work really hard, i am due to start university in September so i can't see what my folks have to complain about. What's really breaking my heart at the moment is that the guy I have really liked for 2 years now has been asking me to come out with him lately and to come clubbing too. I have been honest with him about my situation but I am afraid he will be driven away...What do I do? I just want a life just like most teens do. Thanks
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reader, jasmin +, writes (10 July 2006):
hi again i feel sorry 4 u thats some rough sh**t that you r havin to deal with cctv thats way bang out of order. u see i dont think u have any way u cant tell them the truth they would lock u up and throw away the key u see i had a sister that covered my butt and i worked night shifts as a care assistant so when i wasnt at work i did say i was but i dont think u cud even do that they wud take u there and bfing u back ifthey can put cctv thats hard tell me more about your home situation and i will see if i can come up with any thing i really feel for u
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question
Thanks for the lovely advice girls, i am already living a double life of sorts. You say I can do this, but like I say, it's not like I tell my parents that i am about to go clubbing, it's that i am not allowed to go out at night ! I can't even sneak out as they have had cctv installed., which is quite sad really, but u see, I have no chance of doing my own thing...any other options, anyone?
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reader, jasmin +, writes (9 July 2006):
hi im a muslim girl 2 who goes clubbin and i live my life with alot of freedom. u must understand that our parents cant help being the wat they r due to the way they have been brought up and if they r anything like my parents typical raajput pakistanis then i can understand them it has took ne 7 years to understand them and at your age i used to feel the same. i know its bad to say but i live a lie i have 2 lives one im a western girl and another a typical muslim what my family dony know wont hurt them i drink go out on weekends clubbin ang girl lifes bto short just makes sure when u lie u do it goo i havent been caught 9 years..............
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2006): i am a muslim girl to who used to envy the lives of my mates clubbin and enjoying myself but i had 2 respect my family values and decided to have a second life one being a muslim girl at home with my parents showing respect the other i would lie and go clubbin behind their backs what they dont know wont hurt them i understand where ur comin from i had a goos sister who covered my back and i hav been living this life 4 7 years and this way everyones happy
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