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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:At the end of the last school year, I used my university's free counseling services. Though my counselor was helpful and supportive, I felt panic each time, before I went. My heart would beat extremely fast, and it was difficult to breathe normally. Once I was there, I didn't feel as nervous, though I still had some problems opening up fully and making eye contact when speaking. I have difficulty trusting people, yet I did feel as though she cared and was non-judgmental. We talked a few times about me coming right back after the summer break, and I did want to. She seemed to think I should. But when I came back this year, I kept putting it off. It was partly because I'm doing okay and am in no desperate need for counseling, even though I think I would still benefit from it. But it was mostly because I was afraid to make that first appointment. It's over halfway through the semester now, and I finally made an appointment. I am just afraid that she will somehow be offended that I didn't come back right after the summer. I'm worried that maybe she will think that I didn't value it enough last year. Now that I have gotten over the first obstacle, I wish I did go back sooner. I know I'm probably over-thinking everything, but I think that this little fear will make me more nervous to go back and see her again. Do you think she will be somewhat disappointed/offended?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (12 November 2011):
 She will be happy that you gathered up the courage to come back and will not be offended in the slightest.
If you often have panic attacks, talk to your GP and see if there isn't something she or he can offer you to help. I don't use that type of medication but I know people who do, very successfully, to cope with that type of panic attack. You don't have to put up with those incidents, okay?
Good luck and good for you for proceeding. You'll be glad you did later on, I'm sure.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (12 November 2011):
 She won't be mad or offended, just go for YOU. YOU are the one needed counselling.
I think she will be glad that you trust her enough to go back.
Go for it. It's YOUR mental health.
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reader, Abella +, writes (12 November 2011):
 Panic attacks are horrible and really mess with you getting on with your lives. Many many people all over the world have them. Some rarely, some occasionally and some frequently.
I have no doubt that your helpful and supportive counselor will be delighted to hear from you.
Don't be paralysed by fear.
Pick up the phone and make that call.
Trust me your counsellor will not be offended nor judgemental about your absence. Let them know that you are feeling a little over anxious and they might make the effort to give you the first available cancellation so that you do not have to wait too long.
Best wishes with this. It will be fine.
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