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*easidechick22
writes:Hi,I've got a real crush on my next door neighbour but I am quite a shy person and don't know how to approach him. I also have a daughter so I often think that guys won't be interested!I have spoken to him but only briefly and I don't know if he has a girlfriend. He works all day so the opportunity's to speak to him are slim and we rarely bump into each other even though we live next door. How can I get to know him better?
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reader, seasidechick22 +, writes (20 October 2008):
seasidechick22 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey everyone, still haven't plucked up the courage to do the ticket thing lol. But if I 'bump' into him today I might just say hi and see if he asks about my sky or apologise for interupting him the other night. If he does then I can say I'm still having problems and then maybe he might ask to help fix it! lol.
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reader, seasidechick22 +, writes (19 October 2008):
seasidechick22 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the help everyone. Yeah I wouldn't do the note thing, its too desperate. Someone sent a note to me once, so that made me think of it.
The ticket idea is probably a little too scary for me! I would just probably go bright red! I need to know if he's interested first because I don't want to make an idiot of myself, espesically as I have to live next door to him. It's tricky isn't it?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2008): Hey babes, we are going for subtle...
OK, so we done the "helpless routine" and you got a look at the sexy body. I can understand you now want to move fast and grab him, but we can't. We don't know if he has a girlfriend and we don't know if he's interested. Next we can try the "I've got an extra ticket" game. Pop over and tell him you've got two tickets for some fantastic thing, and you was supposed to go with a friend and they can't make it. You can tell him you won the tickets in a competition so they don't have to be expensive. A ticket to a film, (make it the latest blockbuster) hopefully the bloody idiot will take the hint and say yes I'm available, or no I can't make it, and then you'll know your wasting your time.....
Let's leave the note out, we don't want you to look desperate. Try the "extra ticket" routine first... You lucky girl, men that answer the door without clothes are very nice........
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reader, seasidechick22 +, writes (18 October 2008):
seasidechick22 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionGreat advice everyone. I just tried the 'whole I'm so helpless' routine about my Sky but he answered the door with not much on and was obviously having a shower! Oops!
I explained the problem and we chatted again, he had a huge grin like he knew I was making things up! Should I put a little note through the door asking if he'd like to meet up sometime or is that a bad idea? Advice please!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2008): Lovely answer girls! I agree 100%, try the "Oh I'm so helpless" routine. Most men can't resist feeling needed and will help you. But don't overdo it and don't ask too many questions as once.. just drop in something like "Oh, your girlfriend must really appreciate this" ect.. and see what he says back. You'll either get "I don't have a girlfriend/wife"..or he'll bring her up. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2008): Ah.. the old, "I am a weak woman, please help me" trick..
Yes, it's guaranteed to work, and will a least give you room for conversation. There are some interesting variations on this method of seduction. You could also ask for some sugar and milk, cause you've run out (men are stupid, they never tell you that there are plenty of shops around the corner).. Best to look seductive and wear something nice. You could also try, "I've got a spider and I'm frightened" or take out your tools, loosen some screws and cause a flood "help me, I don't know how to turn off the water".... Electronic equipment is a godsend, mess up all the timings and settings on your cable TV, Video, stereo or telephone.. then you can try .... "help me big strong man, I am woman, please come to aide me in my time of distress cause I know you've got a clever mind"... Variations on this theme, will bring you into contact with the man you desire. Then start asking interesting question but be subtle, if he's interested, he will come back for more.
PS: I hope no guys are looking at this advice, we wouldn't want to let them into all our girl secrets... good luck, and act innocent, dumb and insecure....
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (18 October 2008):
Find a jar with a really tightly done up lid and take it round. Use the fact you need him to be strong and manly and open the lid for you to spark up a conversation / ask about girlfriends etc.
Then ask him if he wants to come round for dinner one night. Just keep it casual and be honest, tell him you miss adult conversation because you hang out with a small girl all day.
Good Luck!! xx
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