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writes:Okay me and my girl friend have been going out for two months. I have started to finger her more often but I never get pleasure myself. I want to but I don't want to make her do anything she doesn't want. I talked to her and she doesn't know and shes never been in a relationship like this before. This is very deep too. We have been seeing each other almost every day. We have had our ups and downs and on's and off's. This is getting more intimate. She told me she lets me finger her because she feels like it but she doesn't know why. I kinda got her off guard when I asked but I was curious. I wasn't asking for it. Like I said I really don't want to make her do anything she doesn't want to do. I need some advice or help. She said right now she feels awkward. I felt bad for asking the question but she said she understood why I asked. I was really curious. I am not sure if I am ready. Its really awkward right now. .I think I might be ready when she is. Its hard to tell but shes said shes feeling feelings shes never felt before. I made her have an orgasm. I'm guessing she feels stronger towards me and I like that. Right now I want some advice. I am going to ask my parents. Its going to be really awkward... =/ But how else to I fix this. I will tell her that I am not ready if she isn't.What do I do?
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reader, peaches83  +, writes (14 September 2008):
 You've made one step towards it, as you said she doesnt know what to do really and not many people really do, god i didnt when i first ever. It kinda come natuarlly when you are ready.
It sounds more like you are both scared, not that you arnt ready becasue by the sounds of it you are because not only are you thinking about it but you are exploring into it.
Communicating always helps, you should tell her how things feel that she does to you and vice versa.
Take it at a step ata time, try not to plan anything becasue generally things just go tits up then.
Go with the flow etc a bit of kissing caressing etc. If you both feel comfterble then go that step further.
Good luck
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reader, Shawn E C +, writes (14 September 2008):
 just like me then, just that i have been with my girlfriend for 6month now.
all that you can do is carry on to pleasure her and make her happy, the more she is happy with what you give/treat her with the more comfitable she will be with doing more with you, it was 2months 2-3 weeks when myself and my girlfriend 1st did something.
all i can say is maybe use sextoys if your 18+? (or old enough in your contry)
find more than 1 way to pleasure her?
and once she is more relaxed and lets you both use your tackle, have a look on the internet for posisitions to give her a more relaxed expirience.
note. if you get this far, and do look on the internet, make sure that the position your looking at doing doesnt hurt her in any way. - she will like it, and you wont regret it.
hope i helped :)
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