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30-35,
* need your advice please
writes:I met my boyfriend when I was sixteen and he was eighteen, we went to different schools. We lived only about thirty minutes away from each other and have lots of things we can relate to, we have had our differences and our issues and our faults. We currently stay together, have been since I was seventeen years old and we had just turned a year together, nothing much has changed since I've moved in, only that we had some more good times and lessons learned and some we're still working on um... We have a wonderful baby boy together, we've made promises to each other, he promised a future and I gave him a child whom we love so much, thing is we still stay whith his parents. I'm nineteen now and he's twenty one. His promise to me was that we'd have a place of our own, this was even before we tried to have our son. He hadn't yet to keep his word, I wanted to wait till I had a job, finished school and have my license but he assured me that everything would be fine and that he'd support me with my goals and we'd get a place so I agreed. I wanted a baby with him and so I gave him a child, (I knew he was for me). While I was pregnant I got some things done, I was determined I completed confirmation, got my permit and attempted to go back to school but my time was running out. I didn't get to finish again, we had some trust issues along the way that we have yet to drop but are slowly putting it behind us and up to this day I only completed on of my goals, he has yet to support me with the rest as he said he would. I'm a stay at home mom, no diploma, job or license so it's hard to be independant like how I wish I was for our son. He tells me to be patient about getting our own place and I often tend to push him a little too far because I get frustrated with the fact I have not finished much, we stay with his parents and other siblings that have children as well. Our son has medical issues and I barely go anywhere... He asked that I be patient but I feel like I've been patient for so long, for me it feels like forever. I stay home almost all the time until our child has an appointment. I love his family but sometimes they can be too much and they bug into everything we do, especially when it comes to our son, they make us argue, and it drives me crazy, so it's hard to focus on us just as a family, that's why I want our own place so I can calm down, so our relationship can be better, stronger, so we can have privacy as a family,and etc... My question for you is how can I be patient with all the issues I have? How can I get him to move faster without pushing and rushing him or frustrating him? And what can I do to stay calm when the family interferes? Please help me I really need advice and quick because our relationship is rocky.I want it to work because I know if all is lost it'd be a mistake that could have been fixed. I need advice please. Thank-you so much for reading and commenting.(Edited by Senior Moderator)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2010): Please can you repost the main question here using punctuation. I just couldn't understand what you were trying to say because there were virtually no full stops and I got tired of reading it. Just give us the main sentences in a clear manner.
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