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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for two years and I love him and want to get married but he won't. Basically at the beginning of our relationship I messed up by talking to my ex and lying about it and now he doesn't trust me. He says he loves me and wants to be with me but that I'm too much of a risk. He doesn't want to get divorced.So I decided to leave the marriage topic and concentrate on our relationship. Im trying to be cheerful and curb my anger so we don't fight but I just feel sad. I feel insecure in our relationship and that I'm fighting to keep him. He doesn't make any effort and I feel I'm walking on egg shells as I don't want him to think I'm moaning or nagging or cause yet another argument. I don't want to push him but he refuses to meet me in social situations with either of our families. Whenever we meet its just me and him and we run out of things to say now. It hasn't always been like this. I used to feel loved and like a princess but now all my confidence is gone and I try and be a better person. I don't want to lose him.What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2011): Never ever force or pressure a man to marry you...If he is not commited to you now , I doubt he will be committed in the marriage and it wont be long before he feels trapped...he is not the only man in the world...Take your time to settle down and always make sur that you are on the same page...A lot of women pressure or manipulate men into marriage only to start having problems..'my husband is cheating on me, he never loved me, never shows affection, we are always fighting blah blah blah'...You are warned..Dont push a man into marriage ..Not a good idea
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2011): are you for sure that you onlt talked to your ex? it sounds like theres a lot more you are not saying then you are saying. Temper? Better person? He would`nt just switch like that without a reason.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2011): It sounds like you have already lost him. It is quite difficult to maintain a level relationship with a liar,so hopefully you should learn.
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